Am I missing anything, signing this week.

[Anything4Her]

PTTL,

It sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders and are looking at things realistically. How did you ever hook up with such a flake? [rhetorical]


You are heading in the right direction. Get it done and signed, ship her off asap and enjoy the time with your kid.
I'd even offer to pay for a 1 way ticket to Japan if she would leave immediately.

dirty pictures of herself from 10 years ago.

This is really funny. When he opens the package, he'll see it's way closer to it's sell by date than he thought.

[RC211V]

Your situation sounds pretty good, seems like you have a good plan. Only thing I'd say is that yeah, if she tries to open it up on the case that she was un-represented, I would bet the court grants it.

My divorce was in default because bltch didn't respond until a couple months after the response period, and I had submitted a final judgment, but she requested the defualt be suspended and it was, so we have been at it for three years. I talked to my lawyer about it, and she said their firm has fought that a few times, and she has never seen a default stick; they always get overturned. Courts like both parties to have their say, especially when there are kids in the case.

So I'd say stick to your plan, just don't ignore that possibility.

[Pasttimetoleave]

PTTL,

It sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders and are looking at things realistically. How did you ever hook up with such a flake? [rhetorical]


You are heading in the right direction. Get it done and signed, ship her off asap and enjoy the time with your kid.
I'd even offer to pay for a 1 way ticket to Japan if she would leave immediately.

dirty pictures of herself from 10 years ago.

This is really funny. When he opens the package, he'll see it's way closer to it's sell by date than he thought.

She is still fairly hot, just not very bright.

[Fatheroffour]

Sounds perfect.

[Pasttimetoleave]

Your situation sounds pretty good, seems like you have a good plan. Only thing I'd say is that yeah, if she tries to open it up on the case that she was un-represented, I would bet the court grants it.

My divorce was in default because bltch didn't respond until a couple months after the response period, and I had submitted a final judgment, but she requested the defualt be suspended and it was, so we have been at it for three years. I talked to my lawyer about it, and she said their firm has fought that a few times, and she has never seen a default stick; they always get overturned. Courts like both parties to have their say, especially when there are kids in the case.

So I'd say stick to your plan, just don't ignore that possibility.

I try not to ignore anything. Planning for the worst is what my MO is. I have a game plan for that, but hope I don't have to use it. For now I am just hoping she goes away for about 2-3 years then I should be relocated to another state by then. So if Mr. Wonderful implodes I still would be able to escape, I hope. It helps that she has no skills/talents or even a job. Makes it one sided when it comes to throwing money at the court system.

[Anything4Her]

She is still fairly hot, just not very bright.

It helps that she has no skills/talents or even a job. Makes it one sided when it comes to throwing money at the court system.

Hot women don't need skills or a job. If you are talking about a few years out, that's enough time for her to hook up with someone that has both. Don't count on being able to outspend her forever.

I have a game plan for that, but hope I don't have to use it.

I hope it is effective.

[Pasttimetoleave]

Hot women don't need skills or a job. If you are talking about a few years out, that's enough time for her to hook up with someone that has both. Don't count on being able to outspend her forever.

I count on her screwing things up for herself.

BTW, your stbx is a real POS. It sounds like she is a wild child you tried to tame, and failed.

As you said earlier and you were very right.

I have a game plan for that, but hope I don't have to use it.

I hope it is effective.

It is cheap and dirty and I hope it is effective as well.

[a dad]

Just want to suggest that you re-read your proposal with the thought of your Japan-bound stbx not going to Japan. What would happen in each clause listed if she lived down the street.

[Pasttimetoleave]

Just want to suggest that you re-read your proposal with the thought of your Japan-bound stbx not going to Japan. What would happen in each clause listed if she lived down the street.

It doesn't matter if she goes to Japan, she is most likely going to Hawaii. If not Hawaii, Cali. Leaving the state as in for living reasons triggers the change in < parenting time > rights. She wants out of this state.

If I try and push for 60/40 split while she is in state the STBX won't go for it. SO I leave it how it is and it will end up being 70-80/30-20 as it is now while she is living in the same house with D5 or it will swing worse and end up being 90/10. She doesn't like having the restriction of a child. She goes out drinking every Friday and has for 3 years, with D5 that isn't going to happen.

In the scenario you listed Mr. Wonderful failed, and she stayed here without leaving so she will be on the prowl for a new Mr. Wonderful. She doesn't like having a child interrupting adult time, D5 would end up at my house. She doesn't like having distractions while with adults, D5 will end up at my house. She doesn't like not being able to go out when she wants, D5 will end up at my house. She doesn't like not being able to go get drunk/smoke and dance all night, D5 will end up at my house. This has been discussed she is happy I am so willing to work with her.

She doesn't know what I am planning. I have tracking programs on my Laptop which she uses as her pc and will go to her when the divorce settlement is signed. I know what she is planning and it has nothing to do with the divorce. 5 months of watching this is what she is looking at, this is her plans. She is shopping for apartments in Hawaii, Wedding sites in Hawaii, Engagement rings in Hawaii, "How to tell if he is really into you", "Wives tell for how many children you will have with your husband", Mr. Wonderfuls name on Facebook, Mr. Wonderfuls name on Myspace, Mr. Wonderfuls name on Spokeo, My wonderfuls name on Phone Dectivie, Mr Wonderfuls name Model for Ford, Mr wonderfuls name Model California, Mr wonderfuls name Ford model, "If twins run in the family what are the odds you will have them", dreams about having twins with husband, breat augmentation(hundrends of sites), strech mark removal, lingerie, victorias secret, fredricks, Real time in Afgan, how long letters take to reach afgan, Do marines get vacation, how long are marines deployed, psychics in Reno that can tell you how many kids you will have, Mapquest to psychics, are hawaiian men good in bed, how big are hawaiian mens penis, things to send to you husband in afgan, dogs for rescue in hawaii. See a pattern?

I play the cards I can when I can. I track the deck and play to win. I can use STBX lack of use of < parenting time > to fight for the ability to leave the state. I can't say for sure what will happen who can, but I am aiming for the best chance I have to keep as much of D5 time as I can. I stroke the fires of her fantasy. I fed her the crap about twins by accident and she added it to fantasy. The divorce has to be fair, or a judge won't sign off on it without good cause. If a judge asks her why she is leaving would she lie or be honest? She is a NJ, she will lie, I could lose.

This is the best I can get and get her to sign. If you got any ideas to talk her into more crazy, I am open to hear them. I will feed them to her and pray for more, but I gota be careful toeing that line.

[a dad]

...even a dog. NJ.

I like your game plan.

2. We are signing the Custody Paperwork outlining that I am primary and she gets this < parenting time >, every other week while she is in the state, and once she leaves it changes to half summer and Thanksgiving(odd) Christmas (even)

Does the trigger of her leaving change the custody setup permanently? If not and you don't want it to look too one-sided, you could draw it up equally like Plan A will be in effect until either of the parents moves out of state, then Plan B will take effect and will remain in effect. You'd want to word it so stbx might not notice and so you could still move out of state later while retaining custody.