Hopin4daBest wrote:I really want to succeed in modifying my loan, so if anyone has done this, please advise! I'm in IL.
What temporary orders are in place? Most block dissipation or the issuance of new debt.
The problem with refinancing the marital home is that it's an asset that's frozen until the court says otherwise and the court doesn't care about your money problems.
You can expect the opposing side attorney to protect stbx by asking that the court reinforce an order that blocks refi until the divorce ends and the assets/debts are allocated. The opposing side attorney doesn't want you running down to Vegas to drop the extra money on gambling, strippers, and drugs (that's how OC will characterize your possible use of the extra money even if you've never been to vegas in your life).
The mortgage lender wants to know if you're involved in litigation and your monthly expenses. For most people Spousal and Child Support makes their debt to income ratio look horrible.
My nj/stbx cost me around USD 8,000 per fornication session.
My nj/stbx had this in mind (and still does) for me: the manipulated man by Esther Vilar
"Husband pays" quote from my stbx