What if child doesnt want to go

[jerico08]

I have my D who is going to be 13 this fall with me until Sat mornings week on week off.

I usually drop off D to her mother around 8am on Saturday mornings. Lately D has been sleeping late and becoming a regular teenager wanting more and more sleep, especially on a weekend. I was wondering what if one day D decided that she didnt want to wake up that early on a Saturday after being in school and sports all week and suggested to me if her mother could pick her up at my apartment which is about 15 minutes away curbside a little later in the morning or day instead? BTW NJ is very high conflict and not very cordial about changing anything and D hasn't mentioned anything yet about this but I know this day is coming. I have to work on Saturday mornings so thats why I drop D off that early and it is written into our plan that way.

How have some of you in similar situations handled this when it came up? (Remember, high conflict, delusional NJ I'm dealing with here.)

[nighthawk]

Why not swap on Friday evening?

[Trevor]

The easy solution is to tell the kid to go back to bed at mom's house. Don't borrow headaches when simplicity presents a mere 15 minute interruption in sleep. Asking for a later transfer is fine, but high conflict NJs aren't cooperative. This one's not worth more than the initial query.

[Chosen2Dad]

Give NJ an option of different day/time. Swap on a school day...so less interaction. But let her decide.

I am glad that you got your plan with a high conflict and NJ...I have hope for myself.

[defaultuser]

More importantly, what are you going to do when your kids refuse to go to NJs house.