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The STBX's attorney contacted mine today. They want to make a deal on the DV charges. All I heard was what they wanted from me. They never said anything about what I was going to get in return...so, I said I wouldn't deal anything until I get something in return.
Also, I agreed to the STBX taking my son for the weekend. They wanted me to drop him off on Thursday adn pick him up on Tuesday. I told them I would drop him off on Friday and pick him up on Sunday. My attorney said it would look good if I gave her some < parenting time >. I have no problem with that, but I can see his behavior has changed since she's been gone. He no longer hits anyone, and his tantrums are FAR less frequent. I feel it is safe to say he was getting that bad behavior from her. I was in Afghanistan, so it sure as hell wasn't me, and it has changed since she was removed from the house.
He has no passport. He cannot leave the country. I have his birth certificate, he cannot get a passport.
As for the attitude, I would rather him live with me and receive a proper upbringing and learn honor, integrity and duty, and be a bad boy with his mother, than live with her and learn to be a dirtbag and only be with me occasionally. Dealing with him being gone for a weekend is much easier than the reverse.
Well folks, the tme is here. The petition for divorce has filed and my STBX has shown her teeth. She is ready for a fight. Her attorney sent me a request for all the financial documents for the past 6 years. The good thing about that, is that I have them. The better thing about that is that my wife has to produce the same thing. Doing so will show the times she took OM3 out on dates when I was deployed to Iraq. Yay! This is going to be fun. THis is going to be painful for me, but humiliating for her. Some of the questions were also tailored to my bad habits. See, I like tequila and burbon. I go through a bottle of each every two weeks or so. I'll have a few drinks a few nights a week, and certainly on the weekends. However, I generally do it AFTER my son goes to bed, and ALWAYS in the comfort of my own home, and NEVER to the point of becoming fall down drunk. I drink responsibly. I don't get violent, I don't become abusive. I usually become very...amorous...if you catch my meaning.
When we first seperated, she told me I could make this as easy or as hard as I wanted it to be. Well, after this, I can see that I should have been saying this to her. She's going to make it very hard on herself.
Oh, and I think I met her boyfriend too. He would have been the 6'5", 250 LB dude staring me down when I went to pick my son up on Sunday. I was almost tempted to point at my STBX and say "yeah, I've tapped that".
However, I am going to take the high road on this. I'll let her step in the mess she made first. Then, I'll just let the judge know just how filthy that mess is.