Was this a Dbag move? pt 2

[jumbledone]

Out most of the evening with D10, soccer than a stop for a bite to eat. She talked about her sadness that we don't do things together as a family, and she was talking about 'our' July 4th plans. I gently let her know that they were her mom's July 4th plans, assured her I love her very much, then moved on to other topics. Never broached the topic of divorce or separation.

I get home, NJ immediately asks if I am going out, and I say 'No', and I head to bed as she sluts.... er dresses up and goes out. S6 is in my bed, and I lay down and cuddle him, and he starts sniffling. I ask him what's up?, and he tells me he is sad because he needs to stay with daddy, and d10 will need to stay with mommy, that we're 'breaking apart'. I told him I love him deeply, no matter what happens, and just held him until he fell asleep.

These are words that I have never had with him, and am frankly upset that she would talk to either of the kids without me there about this. I was nearly on the verge of tears this morning on the way to work. I hate to see what that b****es actions are doing to our kids. And I hate that she is discussing it without me there.

I know it doesn't rise to a level of getting my atty on her backside, but would a strongly worded email/letter be of any use, essentially noting she caused distress to S6, and that any discussions involving the divorce with the kids should have both parents around?

[MovingOnWI]

No real advice to offer, but can commiserate. Mine swore up and down that she would not sit down with me and talk with the kids about the divorce until she knew where she was moving and when. Then the kids start mentioning that "mommy said we're going to live with her in a new house". I think it's just more of the same warped perspective that lets them see their actions as good and proper, even though they're totally inconsistent to the rest of the world.

[jumbledone]

I know I am not the only one with these issues, but it is nice to see others going through the same, commiserate is about it.

[nojob]

Sorry to hear about your situation. I read your post and saw many similarities to my situation. All I can say is to hang in there and continue to be the best dad you can. Your wife is going to do whatever she wants and not consider you or your opinion. You need to accept that. It will get better with time. Someone once told me that children only need one good parent. That my friend is you.