Looking for some strategic advice

[MarylandDad]

I was wanting to know my NJ has really turned her behavior around sense I called her out on it. It's only been a couple weeks so to soon to know if its going to last. I wish I would have found this website before I had it out with her. I now think she was advised to clean up her act. She still has made no attempt at making things right between her and I. In fact she still insists that we live basically as room mates not as husband and wife.( no sex still in seperate bedrooms, etc) She likes to pretend her little cyber affair never happened , I am told that she apoligized for it and to move on. Whenever I bring up a seperation or divorce I am made to be the bad guy as I am the one trying to ruin the family.
Any one else had this problem? She also ignores any attempts to go to marriage counsoling.

Also I talked to a 3rd. attorney today said I had no chance in hell in getting a divorce in Maryland based on constructive abandonment. I was told to have the seperation agreement written up and keep presenting it to NJ until she gives in. I was told this works about 75% of the time. Has anyone had any luck with this strategy?

[dadmisseskids]

In fact she still insists that we live basically as room mates not as husband and wife.( no sex still in seperate bedrooms, etc)

She's checked out of the marriage.

She likes to pretend her little cyber affair never happened

Most people who cheat and don't want to have any trouble because of it feel this way.

I was told to have the seperation agreement written up and keep presenting it to NJ until she gives in. I was told this works about 75% of the time.

75%? If the lawyer was being truthful, try it. That number seems kind of high though.

[Chosen2Dad]

STBX and I were living like that for months before I finally pulled the plug. Would have been easier to do, but because of our S2.

You're going to be the bad guy because you know it's the right thing to do. I'm the bad guy in ours breaking up our marriage. I explained our marriage was broken months ago. I tried to go to counseling and she told me I was the one with the problems not her. So I knew it was on the way out.

I don't know the laws in MD. But you need to move on and get happy. If the advisement is to try it, and 75% success rate, why not? What do you have to lose?