Ever have these comforting thoughts?

[stretchkr]

I've never confronted my stbx's boyfriend, nor will I. But I find myself daydreaming about a lot of what if's. Like, what if when I was away from work that night I could have came home, and caught them, oh the things I would have done... Or when she was working overnights and he would sneak into her job, to have been waiting there at the door when he showed up, and been able to confront him. The possibilities are endless. Would I just go crazy and beat the ever-loving < edited > out of him, or be so nice and civil, that I persuade him to stop with my stbx, and leave her alone and miserable, or would I wait until they were going at it, and grab him by his neck, and toss him outside without his clothes/keys. Oh, what fun it would be.....

[Fatheroffour]

Why fixate on him? She's the ho that's screwing around.

[jumbledone]

Several years ago, when the first (that I know of) cheating occasion came out to the daylight, I found his email address among some of mine (acquaintance), and I shot an email that tersely stated:

I know, and soon your wife will too.

As quick as an arrow a reply came back: Don't tell my wife, I will tell her.

I replied he had that night, and the next day I was calling her. I never did, though.

It was pretty satisfying.

[dobradavid]

Who cares? It's not productive. Move on with your life.

I've never confronted my stbx's boyfriend, nor will I. But I find myself daydreaming about a lot of what if's. Like, what if when I was away from work that night I could have came home, and caught them, oh the things I would have done... Or when she was working overnights and he would sneak into her job, to have been waiting there at the door when he showed up, and been able to confront him. The possibilities are endless. Would I just go crazy and beat the ever-loving < edited > out of him, or be so nice and civil, that I persuade him to stop with my stbx, and leave her alone and miserable, or would I wait until they were going at it, and grab him by his neck, and toss him outside without his clothes/keys. Oh, what fun it would be.....

[petepeterson]

It's hard to see now, but someday you'll realize that he is your best friend. He's sacrificing his personal happiness to save you from a blood-sucking, cheating ho. What a guy!

Also, I'm pretty sure you and the new fella never exchanged any type of vows.

[stretchkr]

I hear you guys. This is new to me, as i found oout little more than a month ago about this affair, so there are many raw emotiions still. As time goes by, it bothers me less and less, and I think I've done a damn good job of keeping it together. Haven't mantioned any of it to her friends or family, no rude texts/emails/arguments. Its just nice to think about demolishing him is all.... Especially when my D6 asked why when she wen't downstairs one night when i was gone for work mommy was "on-top" of someone. The real revenge will come when in a few months, were divorced, and he realizes... Wow, this isn't all fun and games, she is packing a lot of drama, and she wants help with her car payment... And she has to pay her student loans back?? Is she going to ask me or this? Wtf, she has ANOTHER headache???? And dumps her < hindquarters >. My stbx is diagnosed bi-polar, so my therapist is warning me of her re-lapsing when this happens and begging to get back into my life.

[Fatheroffour]

When the hoovering starts, make it work for you.

[petepeterson]

A "few months" might be a little optimistic, my friend. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Save some of that fuel for a slow burn.

[Trevor]

...my D6 asked why when she went downstairs one night when i was gone for work mommy was "on-top" of someone.

Wow that really sucks for the kids. The judge would cut her throat for that.

[stretchkr]

A "few months" might be a little optimistic, my friend. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Save some of that fuel for a slow burn.

Well put....