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PHRoG wrote:What can I say, I love the woman and she's a good mother to the kiddos.
PHRoG wrote:She was arrested and faced felony charges...we quickly reconciled when she agreed to goto anger management classes
PHRoG wrote:1. I've long heard the nightmares fathers have gotten themselves into with the state over kids whom are enrolled in state Medicaid and food stamp benefits. As mentioned previously, I live in Oregon. I really know nothing about this, but from what I understand the state wants money for helping to care for the kids. Ok, I get this, and to be honest, I don't mind paying what I have to pay. I'm worried about falling into hard times and getting my license revoked and whatnot. I did the state calculator for estimated support, which said it would be about $400/month. I can live with that.
PHRoG wrote:Our frustrations are pretty much just between the two of us, and her desire to control every aspect of my life. I've had almost no social life for 12 years because of this. Female friends? Not a chance in hell. Obviously this has caused some serious insecurity, and mental issues in my life. Although it took some doing, I've finally climbed the mountain to overcome them, and I've taken my stand against her trying to control me.
Possibly. You need to research the laws of each state and try and find one that is father friendly. I'm thinking WA may be better than AZ or OR based on some horror stories on here, but I'm not sure...PHRoG wrote:6. Would moving to a different state, waiting for residency, and then filing there be of any benefit? I could easily relocate to WA or AZ...or others if the benefits are worth it.
defaultuser wrote:Good mothers don't throw things at people. Good mothers don't control their husbands lives. I think you need to re-think her mother skills. This 'good mother' will likely hold your kids ransom and collect as much money as possible.
defaultuser wrote:Why don't you have the kids and have her pay you child support? She's a violent person. That is documented and will help you out lots.
defaultuser wrote:This is one of the only positive points in your post. Hopefully you're coming out of the fog of being twisted by her and will realize that what she wants doesn't really mean squat.
defaultuser wrote:Your first steps are to figure out what you want out of the divorce. Set your goals. Come here and post them and get feedback. Then, when the time is right, hire an attorney and file for divorce. You may not want to start a business until the divorce is filed.
Do you really want to be relegated to seeing your kids a few days a month while leaving them with her? Would you want to be left alone with her if you were a kid?
4. Is there a way to structure the business to protect it from the divorce if it gets nasty? I do trust my business partner 100%.
PHRoG wrote:I do trust my business partner 100%
defaultuser wrote:I've never seen someone who was unstable and mentally ill to some people and a loving role model to others.
LOL. I've never heard of felony assault as a < feces > test, but who knows?Anything4Her wrote:OR... it could be that she is so disgusted by your submissive (beta) behavior that she is constantly sh|t testing you and you are failing.