Fileing a complaint against court ordered Victims Assistance

[nick5454]

My son turns 15 in 2 months, so it's a safe bet she is just waiting it out.

Why does this matter?

IIRC, your son doesn't want to see her. At 15, or 14 for that matter, he certainly has the right to decide.

In any event, you have done your duty. In fact, I think you've gone above and beyond to facilitate their relationship. Leave everything else up to her.

I say that because her and other losers in Safe say i'm just waiting for the kid to turn 18 and I don't have to be in safe anymore. Or at least my son has said this on occasion at dinner and other times.

How can I give my son the right to decide, since it's court ordered visits?

[nick5454]

Also, by the way. Here's an update with SAFE.

So I called again and told the lady my lawyer said to give them the document showing that I have paid to safe and my ex-wife. And they put me on hold for 15 minutes. So I hung up after 15 minutes.

She sends me an email ( replied to the one I told her I would just mail the document because I'm tired of being put on hold for extended periods of time, no answer to emails, and complete unprofessionalism )

She types "How may I be of service to you"? lol, funny.

So they say she will investigate it and get back by 2pm Monday at the latest ( this in on Friday ). I say great and I proceed to the BBB to file a complaint with the entire story.

I get a call on the following Wednesday, never mind they said Monday. The lady says "I owe $30. And they received a BBB investigation." I told her that's impossible, because I am the CP and I just pay registration fees yearly of $75. So she applies that to the NJ and says she needs a copy of the check. I tell her I have already sent you the copy of both sides and the bank investigation. She says, but it can't be cleared without the back. And then agrees that my notarized bank investigation will suffice and will clear it.

Then ( this is funny ) says "Will you go to the BBB and remove the investigation, so I tell her once I get a document showing I don't owe any money, I will remove it.

Funny, once the BBB called them to investigate my complaint they started moving. never mind the fact that if they would just look at their bank statement they would see that I paid.

At least once I mail this off I have nothing to worry about. Would like to just ban the ex from communication with the child, she talked him into doing some really bad stuff. And since to get her to not communicate with the child will cost in excess of 10k in lawyer fees, I just have to wait it out.

[anonymous guest]

You did all this for $30???

[nick5454]

150. But it's more principle than anything else. And the fact they would rather charge me 150 illegally than do a simple query. If they would have worked with my I would have just ignored it. But they were unprofessional the entire time.