Graduation letter to my daughter

[kangaroocourt]

I didn't make any personal comments towards the gentleman or call anyone names like jerk or ***** as I was called in this thread.
Read through the OP's posts and you will see he took a pretty hard stance against his own child, and stated he wanted to throw in the towel and in fact had given up over the last year.
Call me what you like. Be appauled if you like. I take that sort of treatment of a child very seriously.

I did NOT call you any names nor accuse you of being a jerk. What I said was that you were out of line. I've read the thread, I know what was said, and I stand by my comment. It doesn't mean that I think you are a jerk, just that I think you were wrong. To be more specific, I think you were wrong by assuming that jetstream contributed to this situation, because in my mind there was no evidence at all that this was so.

For the record, I am not calling you a jerk nor do I believe you are a jerk. Truthfully, I've enjoyed many of your posts that you've written in the past.

[Trevor]

I think you were wrong by assuming that jetstream contributed to this situation, because in my mind there was no evidence at all that this was so.

Oh come on, roo, he's the father, and his actions, behaviors, decisions, and words ALL contributed to the dynamic between himself and his child, for better or worse, as he constitutes fully 50% of that relationship. You cannot credibly claim that his half of that relationship dynamic was unimpactful on that relationship. You make no sense. No one is claiming he &@*#ed up the relationship, all that was proposed was that jet might consider his impact on that dynamic.

[kangaroocourt]

I think you were wrong by assuming that jetstream contributed to this situation, because in my mind there was no evidence at all that this was so.

Oh come on, roo, he's the father, and his actions, behaviors, decisions, and words ALL contributed to the dynamic between himself and his child, for better or worse, as he constitutes fully 50% of that relationship. You cannot credibly claim that his half of that relationship dynamic was unimpactful on that relationship. You make no sense. No one is claiming he &@*#ed up the relationship, all that was proposed was that jet might consider his impact on that dynamic.

No, sir. It takes 2 people to maintain a relationship and only 1 to ruin it. See the demise of many a marriage, but the principle applies in a father/daughter relationship as well. Based on the posted dynamic (which I believe, btw) the daughter is just about 100% at fault for the estrangement.

[hoosier_dad]

Based on the posted dynamic (which I believe, btw) the daughter is just about 100% at fault for the estrangement.

The blame for long term parental alienation and the impact on the Father Child relationship does not reside with daughter or Dad. They are both victims.

I think what caps was hinting at is that it is easy and natural to react to your daughter's actions because they obviously hurt a good loving Dad, but it is also important to recognize that she is a victim of long term parental alienation as well. Hopefully she'll come out of her fog and realize what a great Dad she has, and by rewriting your letter jetstream you've left that door wide open for her.

[kangaroocourt]

Based on the posted dynamic (which I believe, btw) the daughter is just about 100% at fault for the estrangement.

The blame for long term parental alienation and the impact on the Father Child relationship does not reside with daughter or Dad. They are both victims.

I think what caps was hinting at is that it is easy and natural to react to your daughter's actions because they obviously hurt a good loving Dad, but it is also important to recognize that she is a victim of long term parental alienation as well. Hopefully she'll come out of her fog and realize what a great Dad she has, and by rewriting your letter jetstream you've left that door wide open for her.

Yes, I stand corrected that the XW deserves blame. Although I do believe the daughter also deserves blame, just not 100%.

[Fatheroffour]

Best of luck to you and your daughter mending fences down the road, jet.