No alcohol during time with children in stbx motion update

[chi6488]

Please see read this post first

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So the week started off an email from my attorney that NJ attorney called advising to schedule a hearing for temporary alimony, alcohol issues and temporary custody stuff. They schedule it for may 18th.

I go in and talk to my attorney yesterday to discuss strategy and what evidence I have against stbx and such. I get home discuss with stbx that this divorce is getting ready to explode cost wise and the only people who will win are attorneys and shrinks and the losers will be the stbx, me and the kids.

Today we at home come to an agreement and sign the agreement. Fax a copy to both attorneys and request to cancel the hearings. I explained to her she had NO evidence about the alcohol and I am sure her attorney has advised her so. I have some evidence about her suicidal tendencies 4 yrs ago but it was enough to convince her. I do not want to spend the money to drag this thing out.

Drop accusations/demand about alcohol and suicidal tendencies. She withdrew demand for temporary alimony/child support as well. Surprised me but I did not bring it up.

Parental plan after we split up will be 50/50. One week on one week off with kids. Child support will be based on statutory formula based upon 50/50 time with kids. We are sharing home right now.

The marital assets and debts will be settled equitably but we can discuss that later. Alimony will be discussed later.

How is that for negotiations??

Let the bashing on me begin.

[Trevor]

Let us know when you have that custody document back in your hands with the judge's signature.

[Fatheroffour]

There is a seatbelt analogy in here somewhere.

[Enough]

Plus, you do need to get some help for your alcoholism. I had a few friends go through it and my NJ currently. Your posts in the previous thread leave no doubt on the subject. Your rationalizing was almost verbatim from someone with a problem. Regardless of what happens in your divorce, it will be better for the kids and yourself if you get that one licked. Good luck to you.

[Bubba Seal]

I agree with Enough on your personal problem.

Sounds great on getting an agreement, but it doesnt mean anything til its signed, just keep working on getting er done.

Good Luck