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i knew you'd react negatively to that. if you re-read my statement i said she didn't 'want' to be the OW. I never said she wasn't the OW nor did i imply that. not sure where you're going here... trying not to be rude but the heart of my post had nothing to do with custody or the OW but you seem focused on that.
you're the mod - delete the thread if you don't think my post is deserving of real attention or a legitimate response to my questions. i'm clear about custody. i'm clear about the OW. i'm not clear about all the other stuff!
Of course I am focused on that, this is a Dad's forum. I won't delete the thread cos there are things you can do to sort out your financial stuff. I just wanted to suss out where your head was related to the kids. I think no matter what, you should maximize the time you can get now, because once it's written in orders, it's hard to change it.
My question about the girlfriend was related to your wifey wanting her claims now. The typical modern woman reacts in a predictable way when another woman enters the scene; kinda like how yours did.
When responding to discovery, you only provide what you have. There are a number of threads on discovery strategy so the search function would likely help you tremendously.
To be honest - yours is typical of men who work in trades, contractors and such. You don't have that special a circumstance for the courts to get all wound up, but enough for lawyers to make a few extra bucks chasing shadows from the light of truth. Unless you were doing something extra-legal, like slinging, there won't be much to worry about.
You can always screw with deadlines, motions to compel, clarifications, and generally be a pain in the butt to opposing counsel with a little help from your attorney.
Recently an acquaintance was involved in a divorce, and had access to unlimited copies and printing - his discovery response was 12 boxes delivered with a pallet jack and a note saying "It's all in there somewhere".
"I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet.” ― my neighbor Jack
You wouldn't send the boxes of discovery to the judge, you send it to OC. It's their business to handle that, not the judge.
Seems you might consider the ramifications of finding some structure, even if living again with your parents, coming to court, hat in hand, all cards on the table. If you did any financial shenanigans during your marriage, your STBX probably signed those same tax returns, so she's not a vestal virgin either.