Holiday schedule/Special day make up times?

[i_won_sorta]

Quick question.

So if a NCP has a special day or a holiday with the kids, but can't do it because of work schedule, should they get make up time? in my opinion, if you miss your parenting time, you miss your parenting time. now if i caused her to miss her parenting time because of my schedule or something like that i would absolutely make it up to her. but if she can't do her parenting time for whatever reasons, i'm not under any obligation to make it up right? even if it is a holiday.

[Bubba Seal]

To be good parents I think we need to be flexible in all of this.

If mine missed her time and for some reason wanted to make it up then I would just let it be.

Weve been going thru this for almost 7 years, it just makes it a lot easier if you arent nitpicking the schedule and your days, you may want her to flex some for you at some point.

Good Luck

[hoosier_dad]

Indiana guidelines state:

2. Adjustments to Schedule / “Make Up” Time. Whenever there is a need to adjust the established parenting schedules because of events outside the normal family routine, the parent who becomes aware of the circumstance shall notify the other parent as far in advance as possible. Both parents shall then attempt to reach a mutually acceptable adjustment to the parenting schedule.

If an adjustment results in one parent losing scheduled parenting time with the child, “make-up” time should be exercised as soon as possible. If the parents cannot agree on “make-up” time, the parent who lost the time shall select the “make-up” time within one month of the missed time.


Personally I think this applies to the one off schedule conflicts that can arise, a work trip, death in the family, illness etc. If there are constant requests to shift the schedule because of mere convenience for your ex then I would put my foot down.

Then the other obvious question is does this apply to just regular parenting time or also holiday parenting time. I tend to be lenient with my ex on this since I may find myself in that situation some day. But the key for me is that this is one off make up time, not a tool to constantly adjust the parenting schedule based on her needs.

[i_won_sorta]

I tend to think that this just applies to regular parenting time. Basically her birthday is on a Friday of my weekend, so she would get them 9-9 . But she has to work and lives 2 hours away so she can't have them.so she wants to take the next Friday that is mine. I've been in a situation where I have needed to trade. Suffice it to say she's not usually accomodating.

[secondhalf]

I'd give her the make-up time BUT on your terms, not hers. By allowing the NJ to decide when the make-up time will be you are giving her all of the control.