his ruling at that time was a $10000 purge payment which I couldn't do...the $5k I did pay I borrowed from my parents...
So the commitment hearing was held after the April contempt hearing, correct?
Sounds like your ex spend $3k on a commitment hearing and didn't get you jailed.
I know not knowing for sure is likely making your head explode, but I think if you would've been ordered jailed, the judge would've ruled it then. I am not an attorney, so these are layman's conclusions. But you are doing all you can do, which is the best anyone can expect. And you most certainly won't be able to pay more if you are jailed.
Move forward best you can, secure whatever job you can, and pay what you can. That's the best I can suggest.