Dads rules vs Moms rules

[newwife]

I'm not sure what your laws are. But here, if a minor is in a car with someone without parent's permission-they can be charged with delinquecy of a minor or something like that.

I would call CPS. Tell them you're worried about the girl's home life. If nothing comes of it-atleast you tried to help.
My sister in law did this with both their sons. The gf's families were messed up.
Both sons are now paying child support to NJ's who had children as teens.

Trusting your son is one thing. Having them sleeping together day in and day out at NJ's is just begging for trouble.

You don't know what's really going on at GF's house. perhaps they think she's at a female friend's house? perhaps there is abuse.
That's CPS's job-to find out what's REALLY going on.

[minuette]

My sister in law did this with both their sons. The gf's families were messed up.
Both sons are now paying child support to NJ's who had children as teens.

This anecdote is exactly why I hope your son gets tired of the GF before he knocks her up.

OP, when you had "The Chat" with your son, did you talk about the reality of being a teen father, and emphasize the need to use a fresh condom EVERY time? Unfortunately, the call to CPS may not get the GF out of your son's life, it may encourage him to cling to her tighter. That's not to say don't call CPS, just think about the consequences of what you say and do and be prepared to do what you can in the areas you control.

(You CAN call her father and have a talk about your concerns Mano a Mano. But if her father is a drunk and the GF has enough daddy issues to put out at 14, don't expect a positive outcome.)

Hopefully, with school starting soon, the GF will find other fish to fry and your son will be heartbroken...and hopefully wiser.

One other thing you can do is to lure your son away from the GF with cool guy stuff to do (him and you, him and you and his buddies who probably miss him). That is absolutely within your control.