how can i repeal a CPO that shouldnt have been orderd

[jking03]

hello all i need some advise on what to do
its a long story but ill keep it short as i can

my wife and i had a arguement a very loud arguement as we have had in the past.
the arguement was over my family not beeing welcome in our home..
after 2 years of beeing pushed out of all decisions in our home our children and any plans made.. i finally put my foot down and told her enough was enough..

have i made some mistakes ??? yes i have... about 4 months ago i punched a hole in the wall of our bedroom... 2 months ago a kitten that she brought into our home after i begged her not to because our kids will not keep up with its care messed all over the house and finally on our $3,000 couch and i sat in it... yes i got mad i took the kitten out side.. with a .22 cal riffle fired two shots in the air never even aimed at the cat.. im not that cruel.. and we have had some very verble arguments in the past... i have never nor would i ever lay a hand on my wife or our kids... she already told the courts that ive never hit her never even threated to...

any way i told her to leave i was tired of fighting with her every time i come home off the road (im a truck driver) the house was always a mess and i do mean a mess.. she would be mad about something that i had nothing to do with and she would take it out on me... she left with the kids and went to a domestic vilonce shelter as i found out two weeks later when i was served the protection order...
i had to go to court on the 20th and of course she cleaned out the checking acount so i had no cash for a lawer she got legal aid.. she claimed that she was in fear for her safety and for our kids.... the judge found that there was no domestic violance but that i have engaged in menancing conduct.. now i have a 2 year restraing order against me and if and when i ever get to see my 3 children it will be supervised only...

i asked the courts that if she was so fearful for her and our kids safety and has been .. im gone 5 days at a time she has all acsess to moneys and three cars in the drive way why hasnt she left.. of course that didnt help me any

what can i do..... its been over a month since she left and ive never not seen my kids or not talked to them or even her for this long before and im goin crazy missing my kids... im afraid that im going to lose my job because im so distacted by all this that i havent felt safe to drive 80,000 lbs of semi truck

[capslock]

I'm no expert but I know the first you you have to do is find an attorney to fight for you. Without one, you will stay where you are now.

I would suggest speeding the process to see the kids, supervised or not.

[BartSimpson]

First thing you should do is give your rifle to someone for safekeeping - maybe even sell it.

When you fire a rifle into the air, the bullet just keeps going until it hits the sun, right?

[jerico08]

I had to chuckle picturing you firing off the rifle and cat running for the hills. The cat has a legit case for RO against you, not your soon to be ex.

Seriously though, you do have anger issues and overtly displayed them. Until you show the court your doing something about it, it wont help your case. Agree with above, get an attorney, see your kids when your off the road, even if it is supervised, and sign up for an anger management class. Dont lose your job, you'll need it, and use the time on the road to gather your thoughts rather than stress over them.

[Fatheroffour]

The problem is that the judge found you have been engaging in menacing conduct. That's enough for the protective order.

You're going to need an attorney and work within the judges orders to increase your parenting time.

[jking03]

yes i admit that i have some anger issues.. 2 days after she left i went to a place to seek counciling and i took the information to court with me and gave copies to the judge of my appointment schedule.. i have been talking to alot of family and freinds about it...

im not trying to pass blame because i know t takes two but she also has anger issues... she has depression issues that she is supposed to be taking meds for and hasnt been for a while.. she admitted that in court too.. she is also border line bi polar....

my oldest is 12 years old a daughter and those two have a horrible relation ship.. they argue worse than my wife and i do..
when my wife isnt around like she goes out to shop or something and im home with the kids.. we all get along great.. last year my motherinlaw had surgery and my wife traveld out of state to help her mom.. i took a week off from work and stayed with our two daughters because they had school.. im telling you it was awsome.. we had so much fun together... no stress never had to ask them to do their homework or anything they actually told my wife to stay at grandmas lmao...

i truely feel that she isnt scared and neaither are my kids.. she is just really pissed that i finally had enough.. now she is useing the system or should i say abuseing the system to hurt me and in the long run i know it will affect our kids

[Trevor]

now she is useing the system or should i say abuseing the system to hurt me and in the long run i know it will affect our kids

Right. Now what are you going to do about it?

As several others have said, you screwed yourself with your rash actions. Bashing holes in walls, pretending to execute a kitten for pooping, and firing bullets into the air, are foolish, dangerous, and menacing behaviors that demonstrate a lack of self-control and emotional intelligence. You need a lawyer to get you more time with your kids and to edge toward unsupervised time. For now, get all the time you can and keep going to the anger counseling. Get rid of the rifle, unless you value your second amendment rights more than your parenting rights.

And to Bart's point, I have always wondered what goes on in someone's head who shoots pieces of lead into the air, completely unconcerned about the damage they can cause when gravity pulls them back down through someone's skull or rooftop. Those bullets land somwhere.

[Bubba Seal]

You need to get your anger issues in check before you do anything.

Holes in walls, shooting in the air because a kitten crapped on something, hell your your own worst enemy. Not to mention screaming and yelling. You need to realize how bad this kind of behaviour makes you look, if i was a judge i would issue a restraining order against you just on the info you posted. Grow Up!

Good Luck

[Fatheroffour]

Because displays of anger mean you have an anger problem and must be treated for anger issues?

*shakes head*

A cat I didn't want takes a dump on my 3k dollar couch will have taken his last dump.

[jerico08]

i have been talking to alot of family and freinds about it

This will get old with talking over and over with family and friends real quick, they might not come out and say it, but you'll notice more of your calls going unanswered straight to voicemail, say they're "too busy" to talk, or roll their eyes before you approach saying to themselves "oh boy here he comes with his problems again, I have my own chit to deal with"

You do need to talk about it and work out those issues, but with professionals, peer groups, and of course with us in here. You just have to take it one step at a time like building blocks. Practice saying Goooooz Fraaaaa Baaaaa 3x when you feel yourself getting angry and sell the gun Rambo.