Now she's gone too far

[GF4Dads]

First, I'll give you the facts. Father and Mother had 2 boys. 1 in 2008 as they graduated High School. Mother took Child 1 away for 3 months. They resumed relationship. Child 2 was born in 2009. A month later Mother took both children away for 7 months. Father gave up on being reasonable and through the court Father gained every other weekend and nearly $600 in monthly child support.

This court order has been in effect since early 2010. Throughout the past two years Mother has made up excuses for Father to not have his normal parenting time. Mother married an Ape and had her own daughter. Mother has, through the knowledge of her lawyer, avoided and sidestepped every single contempt of court (about 4 in the last 2 years).

2nd week of July Father was supposed to pick up both sons for the weekend, he was late due to a new job schedule. Mother did not answer calls and was already gone by the time Father showed up at neutral meeting place. Father has already had to have police forcibly remove children and decided it was not in children's best interests.

The next scheduled time Father was supposed to see children (yesterday, Friday 27th) he sent his girlfriend in his place. Mother and Ape never showed up. Mother and Ape did not answer phone calls (When you call a machine says, 'This number does not accept incoming calls). Father visited Mother and Ape's house only to find that there was a new tenant and she had not lived there for months. Mother and Ape are still not answering phone calls.

Father was not notified of a change in address or change in phone numbers. Father contacted police, but without a new address they can do nothing.

The boys are 3 and 4 years old, we live in Colorado.

Although more parenting time has been as likely as winning the lottery, under these circumstances can Father assume that full custody will be awarded?

Mother is unemployed. Mother forces children to call ApeHusband 'Dad'. Mother pierced both ears with gaudy black skull earrings. Mother shaves the sides of childrens' heads so they have mohawks. Mother lives in a trailer. Mother has an alcoholic grandmother babysitting. Mother has unhealthy relationships (married ApeHusband after 2 month relationship, facebook proof of ongoing affairs during this marriage.) ApeHusband is a giant, angry bowl of testosterone. ApeHusband has tattoos of Father's childrens' names.

Father lives with his girlfriend in an apartment while they save money to buy a house. Father and girlfriend both (luckily) have steady, high paying jobs in this < edited > economy. Father and girlfriend do not wish to alter the childrens' appearance. On the side, Father is in a rock band, but never lets this interfere with his parenting time.

Mother is too happy with her perfect American-Dream family to have harmed the children. We also do not believe Mother has the resources to move the children farther than state lines.

I know it's a lot of information, but please give me your thoughts and advice.

[BartSimpson]

The father should come here himself. We have found that advice to a third-party does not translate and things are lost. And honestly, your telling the father's story brings your own bias to the story.

Like calling the new man "ape". There is no need for that, really. He is not a party to this matter, and he's just another Joe like you or me, albeit a Captain-Save-a-Hoe.

This father - your son? - is screwing up his own efforts by not getting to the exchange on time and next time sending his girlfriend. That is just not what you do and then try to get a court to find contempt. And if he is going to whimp out and not enforce his parenting time, with the authorities if necessary, then he doesn't have the stones to make it better.

See if you can get him here. We can help.

[GF4Dads]

The new man is called Ape because he is a large, hairy person. Of course that term is not used while they are in court.

I'm not his father, I'm his girlfriend. I've seen some of the posts around here and they're not very women friendly (I come in peace!), so I'm trying to keep that bias out of it.

His lateness situation on the 13th was due to his work schedule. Traffic makes him unable to reach the neutral meeting place on time. He tried calling her 2 times a day the 12th and 13th. Every time he calls her the phone has an automatic message that says, "This phone does not accept incoming calls." He also texted her several times, but no response. There was one weekend a couple of years ago that he was late and she did not give him the kids that time either. She said, "Since you were late you lose this weekend. Try again next time."

On the 27th he sent me because he knew he would not be able to leave work early and he knew she would not answer her phone.

Since the court order was put in place he has called the police to forcibly remove his children 17 times. She was home 2 of those times, and the police had no problems. The other 15 she was not home and police said they could do nothing.

[GF4Dads]

I have been seeing him since the court order was put in place. Both his ex and her husband know who I am. Her husband drops off and picks up the kids by himself half the time they meet, so I offered to go.

And I'm sorry for being rude to, and biased against her husband, but from what I know of him he isn't very intelligent or polite. I will keep my opinion to myself during this discussion.

[BartSimpson]

This discussion should be with your boyfriend, Cupcake.

Why don't you get him here and then go in the kitchen and make him a sandwich.

[a dad]

OMG! Black skull earrings! Like totally gaudy!

Like maybe, like, the not letting Dad get the, like, kids is one thing. But, like, mohawks! O.M.G.

(Just jokin' around :lol: , but trying to demonstrate that it's a little past keeping your opinion to yourself.)

Looking out for bf and his kids is admirable, but it's his fight. Please send him here. He should feel free to continue this thread or start another one.

[GF4Dads]

I would love to make him a sandwich, I think I'll do just that. But I'm sure once you guys see his typing skills you will be wishing I was back He's reading everything and I assure you the only way any information is going to get lost is if he forgets it, in which case I will reference my notebook I have specifically dedicated to all of this and remind him.

[capslock]

[a dad]

<EDITED: 'cause I can take a hint>

[minuette]

Father: Make mouth grunts.

Girlfriend: Type Father mouth grunts verbatim, then make sammich.

Board: Read, offer advice.

See how easy that is!

15 denials of parenting time documented with police visits, and you (Dad) haven't prevailed on a contempt action? If you don't have a lawyer, get one. If you have a lawyer, fire that one and find one who has a fathers' rights focus. Start pursuing consistent contempt actions for the parenting time denials asking for attorney fees and makeup time every time you file a motion. And you SHOULD prevail, if you document and pursue legal action in a less retarded manner than you used to create those children.

(If you cannot afford an attorney, Cupcake should get another job so she can fund your legal war chest.)