50/50 cust, ex makes more

[RacerX35]

I am currently living 2 miles to the north of then family and school (private school, so the district doesn't apply) is to the south, right on my way to work. We've agreed that I will still pick the kids up on my way to work and keep the continuity. When our renter moves, it will be different. I will then be living on the other side of town, closer to the school the kids attend. I would have to drive up the their (now) house and pick them up to take them to school. I don't have a problem with that at all though. She may, just to make it harder.

Later,

Ray

[newwife]

You know, this forum says all the time "don't listen to NJ's threats"
If tables were turned, you'd be paying her child support.

Go for child support.

She can threaten what she wants. Judge may realize she's just doing that to not be paying you child support.

Good luck

[secondhalf]

My NJ EX makes about 5X my annual salary; she makes over 200K per year. We do 50/50. Would I like child support from her? Yes. Do I get it. No. Am I entitled to get child support from her after being married to her for over 20 years and having three kids with her all while supporting her grandiose professional endeavors. I still think so-divorce was her idea after she had an affair with a co-worker. However, I have opted to quit seeking child support. It is not worth the added narcissism that I would encounter from her.

[Fatheroffour]

"If the tables were turned......" is really a weak argument.

[jumbledone]

"If the tables were turned......" is really a weak argument.

Then consider it leverage for later.

[kmich91262]

"If the tables were turned......" is really a weak argument.

FoF, I disagree with you but agree with Jumbled. Again, as we've discussed previously it depends on one's NJ and knowing their tendencies. I'm of the mindset if the law says that both parents need to support the child/ren, whats wrong with asking for CS? I may not need it now, however as others have posted before one can put it away for future use if necessary or when the child/ren turn 18 and on their way to college, armed forces, or insert wherever.

[Fatheroffour]

Tbs op has said nothing about his ex or situation other than she makes more so he wants cs.

How about earning more?

Same as id answer for a woman who came here looking to leach off her ex.

[secondhalf]

Same as id answer for a woman who came here looking to leach off her ex

Sometimes, especially in the 2012 economy, earning more is not in the cards. It just doesn't happen no matter how hard one tries. I had a fantastic job at one point in my career and was destined for a major promotion. However, the NJ convinced me to quit my job and move out of state with her (after which she proceeded-no continued-with her divorce plans). Yes I was tricked. I spent the next seven years looking for an opportunity that would allow me to grow again in my career. I may have finally found that opportunity. Much of that seven years was spent in a deadend job. Over 500 resumes later I am now on the right track again.

Yes, there are many (and I say women because the woman is usually the one who gets child support) who utilize the child support in ways in which the child support is not meant to be used; and that is sad. However, there is lots to say about the child having similar living environments at both mom and dad's house. Therefore, I am in support of the lower wage earner receiving child support from the higher wage earner in a 50/50 situation. In my situation, as previously stated, I have chosen not to seek child support as I am doing OK without child support and my kids are happy when at my house.

[kmich91262]

Secondhalf makes a good point:

Same as id answer for a woman who came here looking to leach off her ex

Sometimes, especially in the 2012 economy, earning more is not in the cards. It just doesn't happen no matter how hard one tries. I had a fantastic job at one point in my career and was destined for a major promotion. However, the NJ convinced me to quit my job and move out of state with her (after which she proceeded-no continued-with her divorce plans). Yes I was tricked. I spent the next seven years looking for an opportunity that would allow me to grow again in my career. I may have finally found that opportunity. Much of that seven years was spent in a deadend job. Over 500 resumes later I am now on the right track again.

Yes, there are many (and I say women because the woman is usually the one who gets child support) who utilize the child support in ways in which the child support is not meant to be used; and that is sad. However, there is lots to say about the child having similar living environments at both mom and dad's house. Therefore, I am in support of the lower wage earner receiving child support from the higher wage earner in a 50/50 situation. In my situation, as previously stated, I have chosen not to seek child support as I am doing OK without child support and my kids are happy when at my house.

The bigger issue IMO is when the "lower" earning parent milks the system by electing not to work or working minimum wage jobs just because they choose too even though they can work or can earn a higher wage. IMO if other than 50/50, the NCP should pay the CP CS regardless of wage difference, sex, living standards, ect.

[Fatheroffour]

It just doesn't happen no matter how hard one tries.

Really?

Then why bother?

I run into situations all the time where I can't find people willing to work to earn more money. Everyone wants to get paid but few are willing to work. They'd rather have it handed to them or have the state take it from someone else and give it to them.

A 40 dollar lawn mower and a gallon of gas is entry level landscaping. Most people think of themselves as too good for that and would rather take money from someone else rather than earn the money that puts food in their mouth and the mouths of their children.

50/50? Pay your own way and if you feel differently then quit < female dog > about entitlement mentality.