Ex wants me to drop d6 off with her new husband

[didnotseeitcoming]

Doesnt feel right!! What do you guys do in this situation?

[kangaroocourt]

I'm probably in the minority, but I wouldn't do it. Tell her she is free to pick up your daughter when she is ready.

[RC211V]

Depends on things - what kind of orders you have, if she still has your balls or if you control the interactions - but yeah, you could tell her the kids are ready when she can get them.

[Fatheroffour]

Explain why you wouldn't without sounding like a jealous bitter tool. Make it an argument that's good for the next decade, regardless if its grandpa, uncle or your new wife 10 years from now.

[minuette]

"My ex wants me to drop our child off with..."

If "..." is a responsible adult, then frankly, you should be open to that arrangement - and it works both ways. If you need to designate a responsible adult as an alternate caregiver during your parenting time, in case you can't be present for an exchange for XYZ reason, wouldn't you want your ex to respect your choice and not raise a fuss? You don't necessarily need to like the person, but as long as being in the presence or care of that person is not objectively detrimental to the child, FoF presents an excellent litmus test.

If "..." is not a responsible adult - and you can demonstrate that, if necessary, in court - then that's a whole different issue.

[mbxdad]

What's your rationale for not dropping her off with him?

Is he an ex-con? Child molester? Mean?

If he's a good guy and treats your daughter well, why not be cordial, shake his hand and send her off with a hug and a kiss?

What would make your daughter feel best?

[didnotseeitcoming]

No the guy is not an ex con or anything like that. This whole situation just stinks, I have to drop my daughter off to another man. I guess i am being a bit of a "jealous tool"! The guy does have four of his own children.... I guess I need to make the best out of this situation. Dang, being a seperated dad stinks!!

[TransAm]

I'm in the same boat dude. But look at it like this: Suppose your supposed to get your kids on X day, and she can't make the drop off for whatever reason. And then he does it for her, cause its your weekend and your getting them come hell or high water. Would you TAKE them? Pick your battles.

[zigzagmarlin]

the fact that he is your ex's new husband and not some random guy she met
at the bar the night before should be actually comforting.

believe me, i know it sucks because i'm in the same boat, but it's the way it's
going to be for the next 12 years.

[kangaroocourt]

For me, the first reason that I wouldn't do it is that if my X wasn't available for some reason, I'd want more time with my kid. Second, this guy is a NEW husband, meaning I don't know him. Quite honestly, the very fact that he would marry my X (with most of the Xes on this forum) is a black mark against his judgment. So maybe if he made the effort to introduce himself to me and make an argument as to why he can be trusted, I would consider it. If not, no way.