When a child declines a visit...

[Chosen2Dad]

Parent alienation...parenting plan...decree...judge's ruling...not optional..unless he wants to testify he doesn't want to see you...

Your exnj needs to support the relationship...

Him being a teen, ok..I get that...but father-son bond is stronger...he's getting a screw-job from the ex...as for the counselor? He/she has no idea!

[Chris A]

You not enforcing your parenting time will set you up for a modification. In California child support is based on overnights once you give those up support can be modified.

Could be motivation for your ex to not encourage your son to visit. Always enforce your order.

[Fatheroffour]

The 'being a teen' perspective certainly has merit and this is something you'll likely see with your other children as well as they get older.

What are the distances involved between the two households? What are the issues involved with him having the space to 'do his own thing' during your parenting time?