CRAZY turn of events..

[Hopin4daBest]

UPDATE: NJ's dad (stbx father-in-law) just called me, third day in a row...I didn't answer, and he doesn't leave a message.

I then went to the water department website, and saw that the bill is still not paid ($200).. So I just paid it

I mean my lawyer hasn't called me to advise...so..I don't know what to do...

I honestly suspect he's gonna surprise withdraw on me. I really feel like getting all NJ on him and texting him asking if that is in fact the case, so I can start lawyer shopping now, because next court date in in a month.

[Hopin4daBest]

Maybe I'm wrong, but it seems like he's going to do a surprise withdrawal on me on the next court date. This is what my first lawyer did, smh.

I don't get it. I'm not even a pain in the a** type of client.

In light of the fact that you think you are about to be "fired" by your second lawyer, you might what to re-evaluate what kind of client you are.

Your lawyer is giving you advice (get a psych eval on the NJ) which you are strongly resisting. You might not be as easy a client as you think you are.

Allow me to clarify. It's not that I'm against it. I'm ALL FOR IT, in fact. All I'm asking is he FIRST try to motion to modify temp orders. That's all. And he refuses, and...That's where we're butting heads at.

It also doesn't help my view on this, that I spoke with another lawyer over the phone, and he told me that based on the facts, that he WOULD IMMEDIATELY motion for custody.

[Hopin4daBest]

The deafening silence makes me think you are just as perplexed as I am.
So if lawyer is not returning my calls, I guess my only option is to send him a formal email requesting to meet and discuss strategy.
If I get no response on that after, idunno like, 2 days? I guess that pretty much answers my question as to whether he's still in my corner or not.

Oand just to let you know, he seems to be like a jack of all trades type of lawyer, meaning he always seems to be running around doing criminal cases as well. I'm seemingly finding the effects of this now.

Meaning I have someone who is mediocre or average at many things, instead of decent or good at one thing. I've been hoping I'm wrong for some time now, but I just can't get around that gut feeling I've had since the first few hearings I saw him in action/inaction lol

[serate]

The deafening silence makes me think you are just as perplexed as I am.

Maybe the "deafening silence" is because you were advised NOT to pay the water bill, but went ahead and did it?

Or everybody is busy at work.

[Andys Daddy]

Dude, read your divorce decree. My money's on the fact that it states EOW is a minimum parenting time, not the maximum. They are your kids, start acting like it.

I would pick up my kids all the time to go eat, work on homework, see a movie, hang out, take them places, whatever. Mine were older but as long as you are the father and mom isn't available to be with them, they deserve to be with you rather than a babysitter. You just need to let her know (once you have the kids) so she isn't surprised when she shows up after work at the day care and no kids are there. And make sure you are acting reasonably about getting the kids back to mom.

Come on man, wake up.

I am only going to speak to what Trevor said above. I admit he comes off harsh which is why I suspect you didn't really respond to him, but he's right. Long ago I posted something similar about trying to get more time and the same thing came up, Trevor (rather harshly) asked why I'm not picking my son up from daycare. A fewe pother chimed in as well but I'm pretty sure I recall Trevor giving me the boot in the < hindquarters >. I felt that my ex would definitely send out the Amber alert if I picked my son up from daycare on a day that was not designated as my parenting time.

I decided to just do it one day, and when sent her the text asking where to drop him off when she got off work the fireworks flew. I explained that his learning time at daycare was over at 4, and from that point the daycare was just acting as a babysitter. Because I get out of work earlier I had every right to spend that time with my son. She kicked and screamed and even tried to get her current BF to pick him up at 4 for her so I wouldn't be able to, but thankfully he doesn't really want to spend the time with my son on his own every day. She threatened to call the police and on and on, and I welcomed her to bring it to the court. I guess she finally did some research of her own and realized it was a lost cause on her part, because no court in this country is going to state that a child is better off at daycare than with the father unless the father was truly a harm to the child (drugs, sex offender, etc...). Now I see my son just about every day besides her weekends, much to his mother's chagrin. When Trevor first came at me I was a little taken back and even offended by his one, but the truth is he was right and I'm glad he gave it to me as direct and harshly as he did.

[Hopin4daBest]

My OP hearing just happened.I was lawyered up, plus a GAL. NJ pro se. Judge extended my OP another month, with great emphasis in keepin it status quo (me with kiddos + exclusive occupancy) GAL presented recent turn of events to judge: 1) NJ leaving kiddos at a strangers apt overnight, and taking off to embark on a Grand Theft Auto style rampage to crash into another driver, then assault him. She then tried to flee, and another apt dweller witness yelled at NJ to stay put, so NJ tried to break her window and pull her out. So NJ has two criminal cases now pending. 2) Cops arrived and took her to the station, where her bipolar nymphoness shined as she seduced cops and even flashed her junk, a la Sharon Stone. Cops then called for an EMT transport to hospital for evaluation, where she was immediately sedated and kept in a psych unit for 10 days. This is ALL in the police report!! 3) Child Services notified by cops of kiddos being left at a strangers apt overnight. Gentleman initially claimed to be NJs BF, then said later that he met her the night prior! All in the report! So... Judge is looking like, WHOA daddy. NJ is whining and crying a soliloquy of how she is homeless and wants back in the house and wants kiddos. Survey says: NO!!! Judge says, "I need to read all this to find out what really happened." Asks NJ if she will release her hospital record willingly. NJ says Nope. Judge says okay whatever lady. Tells GAL to draft a court order for records. My "Loss:" 1) NJ demands a psych eval for me. Judge is looks at me. I say, "Uhh fine, whatever it takes your honor.." Should I have said no? Why the fudge do I need one!?! 2) After all of NJs soliloquy..I judge had had enough. Ordered NOTHING else to be heard for another 30 days. Which means my motion to cancel CS to NJ didn't happen! So I have kiddos + house. Yet 50% of my take home $ is still going to NJ for the next 5 weeks!Faaak. I needed support to stop so I can modify loan on the house as my foreclosure war with bank has also been waged. Sigh. Called bank yesterday. They say don't worry. Just send in court documents telling us you have kiddos and exclusive use of the home. My lawyer assured me it was a huge victory. As I got kiddos secured from a psychopath. Agreed. But me still paying support is pure Fail. Ugh. Still Hopin though.

[Hopin4daBest]

Sorry about the spacing up there guys. Did this in my Android phone. Mods help maybe!?

[hoosier_dad]

1) NJ demands a psych eval for me. Judge is looks at me. I say, "Uhh fine, whatever it takes your honor.." Should I have said no? Why the fudge do I need one!?!

Normally these are reciprocal and you should agree without hesitation, but considering your NJ's a documented wack job a reciprocal test isn't really required in your case. You having a clean psych report also makes it easier for the judge to grant your requests. You did the right thing by agreeing to get the test, but does the order list who pays? If she requested it she should pay for it.

[Fatheroffour]

Still trending heavily in your favor. It's about time and I'm very glad to read it.

Sucks about the support not being modified.

[Hopin4daBest]

Hoosier: No the order says nothing of who pays. I offered to pull out my 401k to pay GAL, so I'm now drained. So NJ demanded psych eval for me, however, she is not officially employed. She has her own bisiness that makes nothing and is simply a tax write off.
Speaking of taxes, still have no order on how to file. For 2011, Im still on an extension because I cannot claim kiddos. No one has found out if NJ claimed them, which odds are she did.
My tax guy ran my numbers, and by filing without kiddos, I owe $300 for 2011.

I need this financial shyt ironed out for krissakes.
I still have until October, where I believe for my extension runs out.
But the clock is definitely ticking to modify my mortgage loan. That needs to be done asap to keep kiddos in the house by their school.