STBX spends the night at OM's house with our children

[chilldude2002]

My question is, is it within my rights to request that whenever my STBX spends the night at her boyfriends house, that I be notified, and that they spend the night with me instead? I don't know this guy personally, and I am only looking out for the safety of my children. I don't care if the STBX spends the night, but not my children.

[BartSimpson]

What is unsafe about the boyfriend's house?

[Fatheroffour]

Doesn't hurt to ask.

[newwife]

I doubt you can request this.
Morality clauses are not always easily enforceable-and you have to have one in your plan to begin with.
and it can not be ROFR because they are with mother.

There is nothing you can really do I think. If NJ were reasonable-you could tell her what you would prefer-but odds are she won't listen.
Or perhaps she is selfish enough to give up her kids' overnights to sleep with her new bf.
Worth a try I guess.

[Fatheroffour]

Yes, if she is reasonable the odds are she won't listen.