She is at it again

[Fatheroffour]

#2 and #4 are complete dead ends IMO.

Unless she needs your consent to take the kid to the doc for some reason.

[pushed2far]

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[Trevor]

Good co-parenting requires courtesy and consideration, yes. But that stuff often falls through the cracks in divorce decrees. Enforcing such a thing is squirrely, because she can always say "I told you when we echanged child." Plausible deniability.

Not sure how you can document this stuff except to send emails raising the issues and her being ignorant enough to respond in email. Next time you're in court try to get clarification of orders that the other parent be notified of all health care provider appointments (except emergencies) 72 hours in advance or some reasonable time frame. If you set up an appointment during your time, make it clear to the provider that ONLY you can modify or cancel the appt because your X engages in harassment and cancels appts with malice.

Not sure you need to tell your X every time you give the kid some dimetapp for a snotty nose, really.

[Fatheroffour]

If your orders require it then you should be told.


However, the question was, "
Should I go through the trouble of tracking down these visits and proving that I was never involved?"

You cannot prove you were "never involved". You can send r3 objections to not being notified on these past visits but you will never be able to prove she didn't just call and tell you. Dead ends.

Begin an obvious case of case building, objecting to every clear infraction through documentable methods. Those with sense will meet the minimum requirements of the court order. Others, you'll have to hope the judge does something after you present your clear evidence showing a pattern.