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[formylilgirl]

So I have been undecided about something. My ex's father to me was somewhat of a mentor, but I cant help but think he was a twerp the way he handled being a father. He passed away about a month before my ex and I separated. He was successful in business and had a nice home, car collection, good looking wife, could pretty much go or do anything, self made, millionaire at 40. He divorced my ex's mother in law(NJ #1) when my ex and her sisters were toddlers. He married his secretary, bought her and her daughter fake < breasties >, and the relationship with his actual daughters was strained at best. the step mom was territorial and mean, the step sister was mean, and they saw their dad a few times a year for vacations. My ex mother in law was not much better, hoarder, drug addict, generally nasty person which she fully proved to be in our marriage. Anyhow, ex in father law passes away, and leaves his entire fortune to his new family. My ex and her sisters got nothing. Because of this I think the guy is a snake, and I lost most if not all respect for him. Is this justified? My ex seems to believe he was a saint, and she hangs on to her step mom in a noticeably weird clingy way. Even though he was a mentor and had all of the trappings of success, he treated his kids like crap, and they got nothing in the end, and they are screwed up because of it.

[Fatheroffour]

Maybe he left his estate the way he did because of the way they treated him and not because he was an a-hole.

[formylilgirl]

Maybe he left his estate the way he did because of the way they treated him and not because he was an a-hole.

I have thought that. My ex was accused by them of only speaking to them when she wanted something. Of course when I was married to her I took her side, and saw it from her side. Really, I still feel bad for her, this was her family and it was &^$&^$# up. When he was alive, and when we first met, she used to put him down a lot, she said to me that the only reason he was successful was because he was white. FOF you know this, you could say my ex is an active foot soldier in the misandry movement. I can see though how he would be upset with his ex. My ex MIL was a major factor in the disintegration of our marriage.

[Fatheroffour]

My ex MIL was a major factor in the disintegration of our marriage.

Mine as well. She told my kids mom that life was too short to not be happy so wifey went off chasing happiness. She's been pretty candid with me about not finding it.

[Trevor]

Why do you care? Your x is your x, so the factors of her feckupitude would seem to be rearview mirror stuff. If she is screwed up by it, you limit her access to you. Done.

[formylilgirl]

Why do you care? Your x is your x, so the factors of her feckupitude would seem to be rearview mirror stuff. If she is screwed up by it, you limit her access to you. Done.

I thought this after I made the post. I guess its more about her dad, who was somebody I really looked up to and he took me in as a son in law. he had a complicated parental life. he always treated them well and took us on vacations every year we were married, he just didnt leave them anything and didnt spend a lot of time raising them. he wasnt a bad guy and FOF's pov is probably more in line with reality, then the ex's view.