Advice on false DV claim by ex.

[stretchkr]

Long sotry short, ex is very emotional and unstable now that move out date for her is a week away. Last night she made a move on me, and I flat out turned her down. She became furious, throwing things, and slamming doors, yelling profanities etc. I moved from room to room trying to avoid her, to outside, and finally I left for an hour. I came back to her crying and upset, apologizing for her outburst. I explained I understood she was stressed, and tried to console her a bit. She then makes another move, which I stopped, she became angry once again, only this time called the police. I went outside to meet them, explained the situation, and explained I had our entire conversation, and her outburst, then apology recorded via mp3 recorder. The officer then questioned her for ten minutes, and ex basically admitted to the officer she was just upset and shouldnt have called. Officer made a quick report, asked if there was anything else, and left.


Now I'm wondering if there is any way any of that could be used against me in the future, and should I do anything about it?

[Fatheroffour]

Sounds like you handled it well. Just do what you can to keep your distance/ be absent until she moves out.

Get a copy of the report once it's filed to see if the officer put anything in writing that will help you out down the road.

[Anything4Her]

You handled it very well. Follow up by getting a copy of the police report. The fact that she admitted filing a false charge may deflect future similar claims.

I hope you understand that the only thing that saved you was the recorder. This is a HUGE lesson for other dads reading who are convinced that their NJ would never do such a thing. But for the recording, you would be in jail and a restraining order would prevent you from entering your own house or seeing your kids.

[Trevor]

1. I agree that you handled it well. Maybe there are things you can do further next time.

2. Do your best not to be in situations where you two are alone. After the kids go to bed, go to your room and close the door. Or go outside. Not sure leaving is the right answer, but it didn't burn you this time.

3. You chose not to have her arrested for the original tantrum and violence in front of the kids. Why not? It may not be what you want, but she deserved to cool her heels overnight for that kind of stupid behavior.

4. Don't engage in conversation. Let her apologize while you shut your trap, then walk away. WTF are you trying to console her? Isn't that what her bf is supposed to do?

5. You lucked out with the police. Don't bank on that luck every time.

[stretchkr]

Fortunately the kids were not there, stayed overnight with grandma and grandpa. She wasn't physical with me, so the cop didn't really think there was anything to arrest her for. I went and played with the kids for an hour, so its not really like I "left". The cop said that was the bst thing I could have done. I did ask him if he would have her stay somewhere for the night, but he said after talking to her, she agreed to stay away from me, which she did.

He was also impressed with the recorder lol.

She works every night aside from next tuesday, so I already have plans, then Wed she is moving. I took the day off, just to kinda monitor things, make sure she doesn't take anything we agreed was mine. All my valuable things are at my folks already. Changing the locks Aug 2nd.