A real dilemma...

[stretchkr]

So when things were good beteween stbx and I we, hired a Nanny she knew to watch our kids off and on. Shes the same age as my stbx, and is amazing with the kids. Well, over the last six months we have been chatting on and off, and since the divorce process has started happening, she has been taking an interest in it to the point she knows everything. Well, she recently told me that her husband is an abusive drunk. I know him, and was actually good friends with him, we would hang out together all the time, but this was totally hidden. She told me she is leaving him, and has been.... getting very flirty. Now, she is very attractive, and has a very good head on her shoulders, majoring in psychology, works full time, and really loves my kids. I'm trying to be distant, but its hard as we really get along great, and always have. Its to the point now we are spending time alone niot doing anything wrong, just chatting, but her husband, and stbx don't know. but its great..... I suppose I should just be patient, and keep distance. I'm guessing since we are hiding it its wrong to be doing. The divorce is nearly dont, and stbx is almost out of the house, so I'm thinking I'm just going to play it cool until then and see what happens, but she is a real catch. As long as I stay the course with divorce, and put my kids first, is this wrong?

[BartSimpson]

That's a joke, right?

Because you immediately need to avoid her like the plague. There are so many things wrong with this circumstance that to even consider continuing to use her as a Nanny would be dangerous.

So many guys are just one BJ away from forgetting everything they know about NJ's.

[Fatheroffour]

Get out of one jackpot before putting a down payment on another.

*shakes head*


The guy(s) banging your wife are scumbags but you're a stand up guy getting emotionally invested in this chick because her husband is an abusive alcoholic.


Yeah, riiiiight.

[stretchkr]

Yeah... I hear ya. And I knew this berofre I even < edited > asked it. Wont be hapeening anymore.

[stretchkr]

I guess its just nice to know that even though someone knows the mess I'm in, that I'm still a man, worth something.

[nighthawk]

Shes lookin for the bigger and better deal, if I'm wrong, she'll wait till you're done.

[BartSimpson]

I guess its just nice to know that even though someone knows the mess I'm in, that I'm still a man, worth something.

Dude, that is so wrong.

In nature, predators look for the weak. They pick their target based on the inability to defend itself - by it's situation or disability.

You are in a very vulerable situation with an emotional disability. Because this Cupcake is looking good (and you know she's stepping it up on purpose), and you have inappropriate propinquity with her, you ignore the fact that you have a huge bullseye on your back.

She's testing her value in the Marketplace, you are simply an experiment.

[Trevor]

And if you decide to take the plunge, don't dare venture the hole unprotected.

Now I'm off to find ways I can throw propinquity into a sentence. I like it for the kinship definition, but prefer proximity to describe nearness. Captain Vocabulary is off on a mission.

[stretchkr]

I'll take your advice and stop this ridiculous situation before I get in trouble. I would wind up paying for it somehow. Thanks guys.

[TransAm]

Pfft.. Nail 'er like nobody's watchin'. Like a screen door in a hurrincane. Like a bunny on a ferris wheel.