Is it ok to cheat if wifey gets fat?-poll

[RC211V]

Huh? He doesn't have a wife or girlfriend...

[Fatheroffour]

Justify it however you want, cheating is wrong.

Whether it is wrong or not is not in debate. As DU pointed out, its wrong by definition. The question is , like not reporting the loose change you found on your tax returns, is it sometimes ok, like if wifey turns into a disgusting blob of stinkfat.

[stretchkr]

Its never ok. Divorce the fat pig first.

[Fatheroffour]

Its never ok. Divorce the fat pig first.

Even if that means the likely outcome is seeing your kids every other weekend and paying the majority of your income in CS and alimony for the next decade or more?

Never, ever, ever is it even the slightest bit 'ok'?

[Chris A]

I could see where I could justify it but there would be a lot more then her just getting fat going on. But then I lived for years faking my relationship knowing it was over.

[stretchkr]

For better, for worse. Many of us have been cheated on for less than getting fat, and we are all angry about it, so anyone who says it is ok, but is angry at their own wife is a hypocrite imo.

[BubbaGumpShrimp]

I voted maybe/no. My $.02 is that by the time a man or woman cheats on their spouse, there's already a bigger issue at hand than his/her weight. Why do I say this? Statistically, people cheat with someone that is less physically attractive than their spouse (i.e. see Arnold Schwarzenegger). If that weren't the case, then the "he cheated because she got fat" line might stand up to scrutiny.

By the time a man is that fed up with the weight of his spouse, she's likely changed mentally/emotionally (to go along with the weight) in a manner that no longer has him feeling connected to her.

I can say from personal experience (though I didn't cheat on my wife), that I looked at her differently when I met her vs. when I left her. Her weight hadn't changed that much, but by the time I left...I no longer felt any kind of love, attachment, bond, etc. with her.

The thing that comes to mind in my case is the movie Shallow Hal. I no longer saw Gwyneth Paltrow (yeah...this is going some)...I saw a blob that was completely revolting...both physically and emotionally. Again...just my $.02.

[Fatheroffour]

I've been cheated on and I'm not angry about it.

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There are many shades of gray between white and black.

[BubbaGumpShrimp]

I've been cheated on and I'm not angry about it.

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There are many shades of gray between white and black.

Ain't that the truth. Account for what goes on (on both sides) during a separation and you have a whole lot of gray. You're married, but you aren't married. You can do whatever you want, but whatever you want to do might have consequences.

[RC211V]

I don't know that I've been cheated on... but I wish I'd done all the girls I could have when I was married. I paid the price of it with the NJ and her craziness, should have actually done it.