Over. Vent

[thecaptain24]

Went how I thought, 60-40 her favor. I get 144 overnights, excluding holidays. Ironically, I'm still paying child support over the state mandate. He refused to order the CS retroactive, put felt it necessary to keep the arrears. Not sure why his tone changed, but he reprimanded me over the whole pro se motion, even after my attorney pointed out exactly where the information was that he felt i was misleading about.(I didnt specify in my ammended emergency pick up of my son that I gave her parents permission to have him for a visit until July 15th, but it was in my orginal). And he originally was understanding of this. His entire attitude towards me changed, not sure why, it was the only accidental miscommunication I had with him.

He felt I wasn't over my ex and trying to control her. Why? Because I asked for an alcohol stipulation, and since we both claimed alcohol abuse in our court filings I thought it would be good to not drink in front of our child. Apparently, this wasn't logical, but yet a desperate attempt to control her. We no longer have to do exchanges at the police station, even though my attorney basically begged because of her false accusations of DV. He felt this was also a control thing, and that I just wasnt over her. She doesnt need written permission to leave the state, even though we proved she left against his own order not to without consent. Also, controlling. Not because it happened twice while this was pending and I had no idea where he was. Or she even lied about the itinerary when she did provide one.

This didnt bother me, as much as his next little lecture.

"I hope that [sons name doesn't end up on my juvenile docket in the future because you two cant get along."

I have fought hard to keep my son on track with school. It was presented to the judge through the CFI and the school the only time my son hasnt been at risk of being kicked out of school was in my primary care during her deployment. School has informed me since I didnt win 50-50 he will now be kicked out. Theyve been waiting hoping I get him. This just crushed me, because my son is on track to be a delinquent. He's violent and agressive, and for a short time in his life, he was at peace and excelling and happy, and now that is all over for him.

Oh, and since court ended and NJ got her "win", my phone has been blown up, shes threatened to show up at my home, unless i met her at an abandoned school today to do exchange. Crazy is about to get out of hand. Thanks judge. Good call on who needs to just let it "go".

[Trevor]

Kinda makes me wonder why there aren't as many judge jokes as there are lawyer jokes. What a Hole your guy is. Ignoring evidence because of some minor irritant. Seems like the guy's estrogen is running a little high. Maybe he was on his period.

[thecaptain24]

Kinda makes me wonder why there aren't as many judge jokes as there are lawyer jokes. What a Hole your guy is. Ignoring evidence because of some minor irritant. Seems like the guy's estrogen is running a little high. Maybe he was on his period.

Yeah, not sure what the deal was. He just did not care what she had done, even when it was against his orders. He also refused to rule on who would get him if she deployed (shes trying to allot her parenting time to her parents) and he said he would rule on it at this hearing. Then decided not to.

[RC211V]

Wow, your judge sounds so messed up. (I thought judges are all previous lawyers, so lawyer jokes pertain to judges too, maybe even more becuase judges are like exalted lawyers, aren't they?) Always heard appeals never win, or asking for a new judge, but maybe you have some kind of case for something like that?

[thecaptain24]

Wow, your judge sounds so messed up. (I thought judges are all previous lawyers, so lawyer jokes pertain to judges too, maybe even more becuase judges are like exalted lawyers, aren't they?) Always heard appeals never win, or asking for a new judge, but maybe you have some kind of case for something like that?

It was very apparent something happened after we returned from Lunch. He was very unhappy with her, and very confused by the CFI and her findings, especially when she touched on how it was found to be true my ex intentionally sabotages my relationship with our son..

Also I forgot, he said i was controlling and needed to get "over it" because I didn't agree our son was ready for kindergarten because of his behavioral issues and that sending him now would destroy his future. Son had kindergarten assessment today, and guess whose not ready and did not get accepted. This infuriates me beyond believe.

[thecaptain24]

Also, the second CFI stuck around to see the outcome of the judgement. When ex nj testified, her face was priceless, and unfortunately it was already too late. The moment she realized she was used, because exes testimony was not what she had told her at all. And when she spun the story against me, to get her to make her recommendation, and then the truth came out.. Oh man.

The moment she realized my ex used ADHD meds as her "win", the look she had said it all. I honestly believe she regrets her decision now. She told me the first day she wanted to stick around and wanted to learn from her experiences to do better in the future. I don't know if I should find peace in this, or be furious..

[texasdad2012]

My heart really goes out to you about your son. It's a damn shame and a tragedy how divorce can affect a once-happy, carefree kid. I've watched the innocence disappear from my own kids' eyes over the course of the last year or so, and witnessed their rapid transformation from silly to serious. Too much growing up too quickly, brought on by having to cope with all the adult lunacy going on around them.