oh the drama

[stb_divorced]

because i dont want a 2-yr divorce. i want a 2-month divorce.

[Fatheroffour]

Don't we all.

It sounds like your ex is reasonable as long as she's in control. Glad that works for you and hope it continues to.

Not that I'm bashing. Along the spectrum that works for some. It works for me and my kids mom as long as I'm in control.

[rangerthat12]

I can see your point STB.. I really wish my situation was like that. I understand it may look like I'm painting a bad picture of my ex.. but the truth is.. she is bad. I wouldn't be on here trying to find advice on modifying an agreement that is going to cost me a lot of money I don't have if she was civil. Some ex's are extremely vindictive and know that once divorced, the only way they can really hurt you is through the kids. This is what mine does. She flat told me that all she wants from me is a paycheck and that's it. That's not looking out for our kids. Regardless of any divorce situation the kids shouldn't be involved and used as an emotional tool. It's hard to sit back and not be able to see your kids and when you are able to call hear their mom in the background coaching them on what to say and what not. I'm glad your kid's mother is civil and clearly putting emotions aside when it comes to your kids. That's the way it should be.

[texasdad2012]

Mine is like what Fatheroffour said: "reasonable as long as she's in control." I find myself doing things to make her feel like she's in control so she will continue to be agreeable and flexible about my requests for schedule changes, exceptions, etc.