Question from a step mother

[Bobro]

My wife has been reading through the things I've posted here, and her constant question has been: where is there a similar forum for women involved in all of this? Not divorced moms, obviously. But rather stepmothers who also have to deal with NJ's?

I looked through the search function on this forum, but couldn't find anything on this. Probably missing it. Any pointers? I would love to point her in the right direction, partly because I don't think this is the best place for her to be hanging out but it's been the only place she's found so far where most people are "at least somewhat constructive and not just complaining about everything.". Many thanks in advance for tips.

[newwife]

I would also like to know.

I am in her situation-and have not found any other place. Sorry.

[Trevor]

Dunno but suspect part of it is more to do with how we handle our business on these forums compared to how most women tend to handle their business. This is not some stereotype but a generalization based on a large amount of data here as women come here regularly, flail about for a day or two, and then pick up their panties off the floor and go back home. If you wonderful women who hang with the boys find a great resource (cos you demonstrate it can be done) then come back and let us know.

[minuette]

I'm a member of the SavethePsychoExWife.com forums, which is back to accepting members on a limited basis. It has a core group of women who are married to men who have a psycho ex (spouse or GF), along with some women who have a psycho ex-husband.

It is a female-dominated site. I admit I rarely go there anymore, and it's more to see the updates from one of the few male posters who is fighting for custody of his girls. The other men who post there would probably be torn apart on this Board, and I suspect the men whose GFs and wives post over there wouldn't last long over here, either. Those women are trying to fight the good fight...but jeez Louise, for every bit of useful info you have to wade through so much friggin drama, it's tiring. They went through a wholesale banning of regular posters and an exodus of others over some petty BS. It's cliquish, more venting-oriented than solutions-based, and some posts are probably toeing the line of cyber-bullying.

But, if a woman wants to know where she can hang out with women in the same boat...there it is.

[Transcended]

Not sure about a site for step-moms of divorce but I've always wondered if there is a site out there called momsdivorce.com with moderators "Lisa Simpson" and "MotherOfFour" imploring NJ Mom's to read "the list" and never leave residence.

[capslock]

I'm a member of the SavethePsychoExWife.com forums, which is back to accepting members on a limited basis. It has a core group of women who are married to men who have a psycho ex (spouse or GF), along with some women who have a psycho ex-husband.

It is a female-dominated site. I admit I rarely go there anymore, and it's more to see the updates from one of the few male posters who is fighting for custody of his girls. The other men who post there would probably be torn apart on this Board, and I suspect the men whose GFs and wives post over there wouldn't last long over here, either. Those women are trying to fight the good fight...but jeez Louise, for every bit of useful info you have to wade through so much friggin drama, it's tiring. They went through a wholesale banning of regular posters and an exodus of others over some petty BS. It's cliquish, more venting-oriented than solutions-based, and some posts are probably toeing the line of cyber-bullying.

But, if a woman wants to know where she can hang out with women in the same boat...there it is.

That's pretty flippin funny. If you want to see some cliquish hens you should view freeadvice dot com.

[doingitsince78]

try this one:

http://w w w. steptalk. org/

Like it was said earlier, you have to wade through the bull$hat to find some good info, but it is a good place for venting, or at the very least to see that your life is pretty good compared to some of those crazy screwballs!