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So, NJ texts me to tell me son has an appointment. Odd, because she never does. Tells me sons getting vision checked. Even more odd, seeing as son has NO signs of problems seeing, or complained about his eyes ever.
Next thing I know, son needs glasses (near sighted? far sighted? Not sure, supposed he can't read things in front of him) I know this is bs.
so, son comes over today (hes 4) and i sit at the table with him, and we start reading (without glasses). He has no issues with normal size print, and so I have him read the numbers on a bar code. (no squinting, problems telling me, moving closer to see it.) I figured something was up..
Fast forward to dinner and he is writing (went out to eat with the fam) letters with his step sister with the crayons and reading off letters.. Convo goes as follows as i notice him telling his step sister that it was a "t" in the tiny box they were filing in.
Me: Can you read that? Him: Yeah Me: Your not having trouble seeing? Him: Um, oh yeah. (looking back at paper) I can't see the letters anymore.
Am I nuts, or is NJ telling him to lie about his vision? The moment I asked him is the first time he said he could not see/read. I don't know anything about glasses, but it doesn't seem a normal kid would just one day not be able to read without some sort of outward sign noticed by his school, and only when put on the spot claim he can't see something. I know my son, he can see fine. I almost know his reaction when hes been fed some BS and he knows the cues of when he is supposed to answer with what his mom wants.This seems terribly wrong.. Why would she do this?
Sometimes kids do things for attention too. Getting glasses at a young age can be a pretty simple way to get attention. I would say watch for a while and I bet in a short time he will forget to wear them. I have 3 brothers and I was the only one that wore glasses as a kid and I remember the attention I got when I was prescribed them. Few months later the novelty wore off and I was getting < female dog > at for not wearing them.
A year later I tested 20/20 so I guess they worked.
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Could be some other little kid in his class or that he saw somewhere got glasses and he thinks it would be cool to get them too. He just might be telling your ex he can't see good but of course at his age he gets distracted and forgets that "he can't see".
Really, no harm could come from a simple read the chart eye test to make sure, then if all is well, try getting him a pair of kid's sunglasses and I bet his vision will improve.
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Why didn't you go to the appointment yourself? That way, you keep the kid out of it so the kid doesn't feel like he is being questioned and put in the middle of it. My kid wants glasses since she thinks it will make her look smarter. Something her mother must have told her.