Update...

[The864]

Had a talking today with my lawyers assistant. He had an emergency court apt to go to. I have a meeting Monday. Sounds like I got a lot in my favor. He advise me to go for full custody. He said with her messing up 3 times in the last year that if I go in and not seek full custody it will look like Im not taking it serious.

Basically these are the points:

1.) With the kids meeting the guy one day and by the 3rd day he has clothes over at her house and is sleeping in her bed (even tho it is not a night) because the works 3rd he said the judge will def see that as occupying the home and is a direct and major violation.

2.) The past incidents show lack of judgment with the two felons being around the kids.

3.) She is denying a relationship. She is saying its a friendship with talks of dating. They are car pooling together. Stay together before and after work non stop behind closes doors by themselves. Said the judge will see that as a relationship.

4.) He said that I might not even need to hire a PI. He said with what we have and the fact that she has admitted it to people as well as myself that it would be super insane for her to try and lie on the stand. We give her the chance to lie and she does and we prove it, that right then it is over.

5.) If we do go the PI route he thinks in the matter of two weeks we will have what we need if we need it.

6.)The fact that I already share custody and have the kids 80% of the time with her working 3rd and my home being their whole life home and having my mother as a baby sitter a house down the street it huge factors.

7.) Her unwillingness to communicate in order to jointly raise the children.

8.) Her past lies about things in general. For example. I have a text one day saying "per what I said earlier that if the kids are interduced to anyone, you will know before hand" and then the very next day "I interduced the kids to ______ today". That shows ill intent.


He said the case today was a man had his child over and he had a paramoure over until 3am and the mother got pics to prove the issue, that one that one instance at the hearing today the mother was adwarded that the daughter does not go back for any more over night visits until the final custody hearing 3 months away.

He said come in and we will iron out the details on Monday.

He feels really good about the chances and said anything is possible but that he the chances that I loose anthing but money is slim to none. That my record as a dad is perfect and that its not about me or her its about what is best for the children.

[BartSimpson]

And yet, no proof it is harmful to the kids.

None, zilch, nada. Just a lot of gossip and innuendo.

Did your attorney say if he was going for the new Mercedes, or sticking with the new BMW?

[The864]

Just a lot of gossip and innuendo.

Thats what the lady said today too when she was got her kids off 1 case today. You do not have to prove it harmful the kids. Anyone with common sense know that is not in their best intrest. And its not gossip and innuendo. Its facts back up by text and witnesses. Youre hung up on that. Even if its not adwared nothing changes and she is in contempt and if it happens again, its over. Not sure why the hate?

[BartSimpson]

Your children spend less than 5 days a month with their Mother, and you aim to remove that time from your children because she's doing her boyfriend privately and discretely.

You are not motivated by the best interests of the children, you want revenge.

[The864]

Your children spend less than 5 days a month with their Mother, and you aim to remove that time from your children because she's doing her boyfriend privately and discretely.

You are not motivated by the best interests of the children, you want revenge.

You need a hug or a happy meal or something. When my daughter, who sees a man two days before for the 1st time, then sees a man bring clothes into her moms house and sleeps all day in her moms bed and is staying all hours of the night is not privately and discretely. If it was my kids wouldnt know about it and neither would I. And you made my point. her 8-9 days a month gives her 21 days or so to do it privately and discretely. Your opinion about the effects of paramoures occupying the home are just that, your opinion. Lukcy for me, the courts, Guardian Ad Litem and myself disagree with you.

And if the courts and Guardian Ad Litem without a doubt will say its not in the best interestsof the children, they will either stop it or she will loose her shared custody. One or the other and thats up to them.

[Trevor]

The anecdote provided was that one incident alone caused a change in custody from the father to the mother. That, while unlikely to be based in one single incident, is plausible for the genders, but it doesn't give any credence to your situation for that reason. It's good that you're optimistic. But like most everything else, needs to be in moderation.

[The864]

The anecdote provided was that one incident alone caused a change in custody from the father to the mother. That, while unlikely to be based in one single incident, is plausible for the genders, but it doesn't give any credence to your situation for that reason. It's good that you're optimistic. But like most everything else, needs to be in moderation.

While I agree with what you say, its a collective package. If I was a every other weekend dad ( like some men are unfairly forced to be) Im sure it wouldnt be so positive. But our typical gender roles are reversed. And she has history of mistakes.

But to add, yes the mother got it off one instance. (until the next hearing anyway) Well, let me say one proven instance. We all knew it happen more, just like I know my stupid ex is doing.

[BartSimpson]

So you've already planned your victory party, Woot! Even the GAL is on board already and you haven't even filed. Dang, slam dunk for you.

Well make sure you post up your success when it actually happens so I can eat my words.

[The864]

So you've already planned your victory party, Woot! Even the GAL is on board already and you haven't even filed. Dang, slam dunk for you.

Well make sure you post up your success when it actually happens so I can eat my words.

No, I have not planned one. But I have not laid down and died either. I will win this. I will. Either by custody or getting her to changed that behavior and custody and days staying the same. Its about the kids not me.

[BartSimpson]

If your ex was a lesbian, would you still have a case? Or is it just because it's a male?