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My attorney only mentioned taking a polygraph test with questions that he drafts. Obviously the questions would be relevant to the claims. A polygraph specialist with years of credibility and experience saying that jim passed with flying colors would be nice to keep in the back pocket is all he was saying.
Yeah unfortunately one has to be one step ahead of NJs like these types. My NJ has accused practically everybody in S8's life on my side with abusing him. Heck I think if she could get by with it, she would accuse my sister of abusing S8 even though she lives thousands of miles away and has only seen him once in the last 4 years or so. After the counselors and psychologists wouldn't listen, although they won't divulge who turned it in, a mysterious claim of abuse was turned into CPS. Of course CPS is required to check claims out like this but have been assured that they have found it unfounded. Based on the info provided by CPS, it would appear NJ did the deed of turning in this mysterious claim. Sad thing is, NJ blames everybody else for her failure of not getting S8 to school on her time but because I get S8 to school I must be physically beating him or something. With that being said, don't be surprised if you NJ takes it even further and claims other things just to see what sticks.
So I e-mailed Nj about my objection. I texted her to kindly let her know I e-mailed her. I haven't expected a response because she is probably going to hire an attorney etc.
About the abuse allegations, I have heard nothing else. Apparently she hasn't contacted the authorities (probably because she is lying). I have informed my mother and her husband of the whole situation and why I believe she threw out the allegations to me over the phone.
If D3 REALLY said the things NJ said she said, our phone conversation would have never been pleasant for the first couple minutes. Also, if D3 ever came to me with a REAL claim, the authorities would have been notified immediately.
So I have officially objected to the move. I have my attorney on stand-by and ready to fight. Mom and jim are aware of the situation/allegations.
Keep your ear to the ground for indications of any move.
About those false accusations - don't try to make sense out of them, like how the call went for the first few minutes, or how he doesn't own a robe, or if the "authorities" have been notified. That sort of hand-wringing is useless, it is a complete fabrication that you are trying to make sense of, logic and reason are absent. Your Ex-wife has a gun, and has pointed it at Jim's head.
I have a friend from High School, he became a photographer taking school photos of kids, as a way to work during college. His first client was a daycare center located in Southern California, near his school (University of Second Choice). There was an accusation of molestation at that school, and he - who only went there 3 times to take pictures - was swept up in the investigation and spent years defending against his involvement.
The case is rather famous now, have you ever heard of the McMartin Preschool? Read the wiki article and see how a single accusation can destroy third-party lives - even for my friend, the school photographer.
Jim can't be around your daughter, your ex-wife has a gun pointed directly at his head.
"I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet.” ― my neighbor Jack
I agree with you. Mom and jim babysits while D3 sleeps (as you may already know). I really don't have any other choice than to allow D3 to sleep at NJ's house while I work.
I definitely see the reasoning behind jim not being around D3 for the time being. But I NEED this job. Would anyone recommend me dropping off D3 (fed, bathed, and in pjs) at NJ's house and then picking her up when she wakes up?
I HATE this option, but if it is wise for jim to lay low at the moment, then I really have no other choice.