It never stops

[happynow]

To answer your question "Bart," I will do everything I can to keep my children safe and spend every minute I can with them.

I'm just hoping for something.

[BartSimpson]

I will do everything I can to keep my children safe and spend every minute I can with them.

We all want that.

But let me ask the question differently - what does "keeping safe" look like in their day-to-day lives? Please be specific:

Have you discussed good touching vs. bad touching?
Do the kids know when and how to call you if there is an issue?
Have you had age appropriate discussions about sex?

[happynow]

Have you discussed good touching vs. bad touching? (Too Young)

Do the kids know when and how to call you if there is an issue? (Too Young)

Have you had age appropriate discussions about sex? (Too Young)

Again, I do appreciate your thoughts.

[BartSimpson]

Are they so young that they haven't developed ears?

Before you go all Commando on the boyfriend based on gossip, rumor and innuendo, you really ought to revisit your role as a parent. Perhaps those pages were stuck together in your parenting manual?

It's never too young to teach these things. And there are a lot of age-appropriate books to help you. That's how you make a difference in your child's safety.

My point stands, your Contempt case will prove to be a useless waste of your money and not make anything different.

[Fatheroffour]

FWIW: we have a forum member that took his ex back to court for 'cohabitation'. He was sure of his case and talked about it for a year before finally getting a hearing on it.

He checked in right before court and never came back so I don't know how it turned out but I suspect it didn't go so well. Just the fact that it took a year to get to court took the wind out of any argument he had about change or circumstance or danger.

[davidd]

dear happynow,

i mostly concur with the other guys. you need to get really clear about:
- precisely what harm your children are facing
- exactly what change in behavior or environment you are seeking
- how you can communicate with your youngsters about personal boundaries and safety without scaring or confusing them
- how you can focus your energy on a solution without driving everyone (especially yourself) crazy.

-dd