Question regarding holidays

[nuke]

I know you'd hate to do it, but perhaps in negotiating make-up time, you could offer an extra hour or two. That way if she still refuses you can go anyway and she will appear like the bad guy. Because it will clearly show that she is more interested in ruining your weekend than spending time with her kids.

[Kat]

Hey kahuna,

I thought she still had to be supervised, but that it was that her mom got to be the one supervising now. Or did they let her go totally unsupervised now?

How's that going?

Kat

[kahuna]

That is part of my reluctance to go back to court to modify. The existing decree now states that she is to be professionally supervised. The psychologist who was monitoring the case released her from that supervision about 3 weeks ago. Although she said that she would allow her mother to supervise, the letter she sent to both attorneys says that nutjob can now have UNsupervised visits. If we go back to court I'm afraid that will be used against me and grant nutjob overnights and even more time.

So far nothing has happened to the kids but I have no idea if she is taking them to doctors appointments again and inventing symptoms. The boys are not safe with her and there isn't a damn thing the courts will do about it anymore. Seems like they just wanted to move the case out of court and get her out of their hair, no matter what risk it is to the boys.

[nuke]

At least when the boys are in school she'll be limited to nights and weekends - not many Drs will see them then.

[Kat]

There are after hours clinics as well as the good ole emergency rooms who definately will see kids, so that isn't a safety net.

What does your attorney say about these now unsupervised visits? There's no way to fight the determination that she gets UNsupervised visits? God I hate these systems. With all the things you've had against her, I can't believe there isn't some way to force this issue. I mean...I CAN believe it, cuz I know how messed up the court is, but....damn. Are there no options left?

On another note, when are they going to prosecute her for failure to pay child support obligation? Has she gotten threatening letters about pulling her state licenses including her drivers one? I know that they'd be doing this to you if you were the one behind in your obligation. Is she working? Can it be garnished?

It ticks me off that at the hint of an accusation they give men supervised visits with severe limits at public locations just from the hint of an accusation of an angry mother, yet with all the stuff you have proven against your wife they insist on continually giving her 40 hours a week unsupervised with these precious children. Ugh. This is what I hate most of all.