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I briefly spoke with the X last night about mediating some changes to custody, and she wasn't all that excited, but suggested I contact the GAL. The GAL was dismissed several years ago, and has since retired. I have a meeting with the parenting coordinator, who was also dismissed several years ago, on Feb 2nd.
I'd like to have a GAL appointed as I have this feeling that we're going to wind up in court and I'll need to have one appointed sooner or later. Is there a way to have a GAL appointed before filing a Motion to Modify? Or do I file a Motion to Modify with everything I want in it, and then have the judge appoint a GAL and figure out what's in the child's best interests?
On the subject of "stupid ex-wife tricks", the current orders say "In the event of a disagreement the parents meet with the parenting coordinator". When I asked her if she wanted to join me for the Feb 2nd meeting she refused. So I'm going to send her a certified letter with a copy of that page and the date, time and location of the meeting.
Thanks -- I will contact the lawyer that my (now deciding he doesn't want to do "controversial cases") attorney suggested and see about having this new guy draft something appropriate. Does it matter that I'm going to (very likely) be the one filing the Motion to Modify? Or can either the petitioner or respondent file a motion to have a GAL appointed?
Is it a bad thing that my X declined my invite to meet with the (former) parenting coordinator? Are there other things I can do to make her look bad? Is there some reason y'all are being so effective at corrupting me?
I think either party can file the motion to have one appointed, but your legal representation will know more specifics as to your state.
Since it was court ordered that she comply with parenting coordinator in the event of disputes, I think it would look bad for her.
Unsure of enough of your circumstances that we can advise what to do to make her look bad. You have indicated that she has a key to your house and had been getting along as I recall, so any attempt to discredit her now may seem manipulative....
Don't worry about what you cannot control. Focus on what is legally relevant, not morally indignant or petty.