Daycare issues

[needluck]

My STBX is going to have one of her ex-students watch the children throughout the week for daycare. I had an incident with the kid once and he is now trying to press 'fighting words' charges against me. This was months ago (March), but for some reason he filed the complaint this month.

I told my lawyer, and asked her if I should tell the GAL about the charges. I am still waiting for a response. The GAL knows about the particular incident that happened at the exchange.

The issue that I have is my son has been telling me that this kid is talking badly about me to him. The kid is telling my son that I am 'a bad dad' and 'a bad man.' I am not sure how to handle this?

I suspect that my STBX is seeing this kid, which is fine by me. I just do not want him near my children if he is going to be telling them this crap.

[needluck]

BTW...this type of drama is not what I suspected when going into a divorce.

[a dad]

Have something like this written into your papers:

Neither parent shall make or allow anyone else to make in our children's presence any negative comment to or about the other parent.

[mygirlsaremylife]

there are other things or clauses you can place on the custody from what ive been told that only blood-related individuals can remain in the house during off hours.

this is specifically useful if you suspect she will try and bring the other guy into the house where your kids are.

Im not sure how this would apply about daycare but i am sure your lawyer can get into more details.

[a dad]

As MyGirls mentioned, there are other clauses that suit your goal. The two main one's I'm aware of are:

No overnight guests (except blood relatives....)

No introducing paramour (for 6mo/until married...)

You could try, but they probably ain't gonna fly.