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The wording "her children" is strange here. These are your two girls, right? If I remember from your earlier posts, one was mid-teens and the other was over 18, so an adult.ca_mess_beware wrote:Background: My ex. kicked her children out her home. She filed another police report against them claiming they assaulted her. She has just gotten the home refinanced in her name.
We have joint custody with a 40/60 split in her favor. We also have flexible parenting days.
My ex. refuses to sign the stipulation order papers to start the process of switching custody. She wants the minor to go to a foster home. She will only give them over to my grandparents under the condition she does not have to assist me for medical insurance. She will let me off the hook for paying child support, but expects the extra money can be shifted to more alimony for her. She will refuses to ever pay me child support. She also refuses to work full time and gets money under the table.
Do not violate your order without the judge's approval. If you were ordered to pay SS, keep paying it. If you were ordered to pay CS, keep paying it until the emergency hearing suggested above.She knows it is a lost cause to get alimony lowered and tells me that all the time. She says if I do not pay it will go to arrears which is true.
What does your current order say? Do not violate. What do you want it to say? Ask for that in emergency hearing mentioned above.1) Can I move the child to another school district? Do I need her approval without going to court?
Somewhere in the past, didn't you say that your alimony was "flexible"? What did that mean? It's possible that it could change unless your original order/decree had wording making it beyond revision.2) Can alimony be increased? If so, what are the chances? Lowering I think is a lost case fighting. I did mine ended in 5 and half years with no way to ask for more later.
Technically, under the law, she could sue the child over 18 if there was some demonstrable financial loss. Otherwise, I doubt this will get much traction.3) She sought restitution money claiming abuse. Can she sue for abuse? Is so, from who? One of my kids is now an adult. She tried to go after me at one point and it feel by the waste side.
Why would you want to do so under these circumstances?4) Can you force a kid to go back to moms home?
You and your ex would probably both be on the hook. However, you're going to ask to have primary custody in the emergency hearing that I suggested above, right? You should fight with all your might and passion against having your mid-teen daughter put into the foster care system. Haven't you seen and heard all of the horror stories about teenage girls being sexually abused in foster care? You need to take a firm stance on this in front of the judge, unless you don't care if she goes to foster care.4) Who pays if the child goes to foster care?
Probably a waste of time. However, each time they file a frivolous suit against you, be sure to file a counter-suit seeking reimbursement of any legal fees you have to spend to defend yourself. Once you have a track record of defeating about three of these frivolous lawsuits, file a pleading seeking an injunction against similar actions in the future. If you win that one, then report her attorney.4) Is it possible to report her attorney for continuing these restitution claim?
You've been on here since last year. Hopefully, you've read "The List" and are documenting/recording all of these admissions by your psycho ex-wife. If so, your attorney can used that documentation to gut your ex during cross examination about her motives for certain actions. You are recording every interaction with your ex, aren't you?Most of the reports are bogus and my ex. has admitted to me and the kids she has done them out of spite. She hates me more than ever for climbing out of the restraining order grave.
Yep, definitely not fair. But that doesn't mean you should lay down and die. The system will work for you if you work the system diligently, thoughtfully, and aggressively too.I can not be let alone from her demanding more money anyway she can get it. Even at the expense of the kids, she continues demanding money because she know the system is not fair.
Any input is appreciated.
This! +1,000justlarry wrote:Why all this? Lesson learned. Nail down Custody without mentioning CS as that is all NJ's think about. Once Custody is written in stone for you file the CS modification. Don't reveal your plans!
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