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Yeah, I think it's just info - may be helpful, may be torturous. But if your trying to paint the picture of your NJ, it may end up being a primary color that can lead you in different directions.
Someone may have gotten their friend (who was one of STBX's 500+ facebook friends) to pull up STBX's page (and click "older posts" until your all the way down), then right-click and "save page as...". You'll get a bunch of files that need to stay together but you'll then have a copy of her page on that date (copy files to thumb drive and look through and/or bring to lawyer). May not be legally admissible, but you'll at least see if you need to go further in this direction.
If you're lawyer will do it, and you have the $, then at least you'll have a filter when dealing with the torturous stuff.
Some people are VERY stupid about what they put on Facebook. You never know what she might have on there. If she's been dating...she might have comments on her wall or even added "in a relationship" on her page. Yeah...I've actually heard of people doing that before the divorce is final.
The ex-husband of one of my co-workers did that. He ended up marrying the woman that he cheated on his wife with. He was even stupid enough to put on his profile when their anniversary was. Guess what...it happened to be when he was still married to his first wife.
I don't know what she was able to accomplish with the information though.
Probably will have my lawyer look into it just incase it helps. Can't really hurt I guess.
And as for the torture angle. My pain can't get much worse. I'm over it really.
You should be doing the work yourself at first at least, checking their page or seeing was is posted on all her friends accounts. In LE we have a tool from facebook that checks friends pages so we can try to get evidence through public posts of a suspects friends. I've looked at the CD's we get back from facebook on our criminal subpoenas and its not much good because they are not good at storing deleted messages or pics.
Police said in a statement: "A citizen provided them with vital information, which led to the identification of the primary suspect in the case. The female suspect from Spotsylvania County, had uploaded a picture of the stolen Christ child on her Facebook page, and the concerned citizen printed the image and the related comments before the Facebook post was removed. The citizen immediately turned over this evidence to the Fredericksburg Police Department. The subsequent investigation led to a home in Spotsylvania County, where the Baby Jesus was found."