What is considered hard evidence when it comes to adultery?

[stioffan]

I am almost 100% sure that my wife is going to see her lover tonight and I may follow her and take pictures of them meeting. I actually think they will meet in a public place and may even be bold enough to have sex. Other than pictures and video, what are some other things I can do to obtain hard evidence against her? I am doing this to help when it comes to the custody of the kids.

[jumbledone]

I think there is a joke in here somewhere...

More seriously... Cheaters usually camped out and took video of the time the car was at an apartment/hotel. Make sure you have audio on so that you can catch the date/time/weather when announced by a radio station.

I know I should know this, but does it matter in your state?

[nighthawk]

I don't know what state you're in, but in this state, that is called stalking, and you could be arrested for it.

Plus, in this state, having pictures of her having sex with someone else would be at most, grounds for divorce. It wouldn't help with custody or property. Mine admitted adultery, I was awarded the divorce on that ground, did not get custody, and still got screwed on the property.

[Fatheroffour]

The DNA stains in her underwear would convince me.

[jumbledone]

I don't know what state you're in, but in this state, that is called stalking, and you could be arrested for it.

Plus, in this state, having pictures of her having sex with someone else would be at most, grounds for divorce. It wouldn't help with custody or property. Mine admitted adultery, I was awarded the divorce on that ground, did not get custody, and still got screwed on the property.

Public property is public property. I have a hard time understanding how one would be nailed for stalking for staying on a public street. And if you are smart enough, you will be covert. So how will they be able to get you for stalking?

[chereeda]

Public property is public property. I have a hard time understanding how one would be nailed for stalking for staying on a public street. And if you are smart enough, you will be covert. So how will they be able to get you for stalking?

They wouldn't be able to get him for trespassing because it's on public property, but stalking and trespassing are different things...

donna

[Fatheroffour]

If you're doing it to mitigate asset division, alimony or for your own closure or jollies then go for it. If you're doing it for a greater portion of custody then don't waste your time.

At this point, you should know your states statutory list of factors affecting custody backwards and forwards. I'm betting infidelity isn't on the list.

[nighthawk]

I don't know what state you're in, but in this state, that is called stalking, and you could be arrested for it.

Plus, in this state, having pictures of her having sex with someone else would be at most, grounds for divorce. It wouldn't help with custody or property. Mine admitted adultery, I was awarded the divorce on that ground, did not get custody, and still got screwed on the property.

Public property is public property. I have a hard time understanding how one would be nailed for stalking for staying on a public street. And if you are smart enough, you will be covert. So how will they be able to get you for stalking?

If you're smart enough, you can probably get away with robbing banks, but why? This op has no reason to be following his stbx, and in this state, it's illegal. You have to have a license to do so. See, even CHEATERS hires a detective.

[hoosier_dad]

My ex's affair was a great benefit in my custody case since she spent the majority of her time away from the marital home and children to spend time with Mr Wonderful. While I fully documented our parenting time together hassle free without Mom around.

Might I ask who is parenting your children while your STBX carries on her affair and you play amateur PI?

[stioffan]

My ex's affair was a great benefit in my custody case since she spent the majority of her time away from the marital home and children to spend time with Mr Wonderful. While I fully documented our parenting time together hassle free without Mom around.

Might I ask who is parenting your children while your STBX carries on her affair and you play amateur PI?

MIL is visiting from Texas. This is the first opportunity I have had to follow her. I have 2 months worth of parenting time recorded to this point.

All of you guys say that it does not matter if I get hard evidence, but the videos from Cordell seem to indicate otherwise. This is why I asked. There seems to be a conflict of opinions.