Needing advice - Please help

[defaultuser]

My wife and I have a mix of accounts for different services. For example, I have the mortgage in my name while she has the utilities in her name.

You have a couple choices here. The best way, is to get things put into your name, but go ahead and pay the electric bill directly to the electric company even if its in her name.

If the internet, cable TV,etc. is in her name, let he know that you will not be paying that bill because you can't afford it. She can pay the bill or cancel the service. Her problem.

[TejasDad]

It sounds like there is not a bunch of cash to cut her off from. Her next plan would be to suck up whatever credit you have. Cancel any joint credit cards and cut off her access to open any new ones in your name.

[Txbizman]

Vey Very Very good advice.... please take it and DONT move out. If youre lucky she is probably having an affair and when you refuse to move out she might. Which will put you at a huge advantage. Just because she has a uterus doesnt entitle her to kick you out and change the locks. She wants she wants she wants...... who cares what she wants?

Keep us posted.

[Kruss]

Today at lunch I got a MP3 recorder.

It's a Sony Digital Voice Recorder ICD-PX312. It costed $50.

I plan on keeping this with me at all times. It is small enough that it can fit in my pocket with no problems.

Also, I got my job to send the direct deposit to my personal account.

We don't have any joint credit cards. We live paycheck to paycheck.

I dealt with the credit card stuff personally back when I was a Freshman in college. I'm 37 now. Therefore, I only have one credit card with a low limit that I keep for emergencies.

After looking at the forums the past couple of days and reading these responses, I'm glad I joined the forums and asked for advice. Thank you for all the support.

[jumbledone]

I dealt with the credit card stuff personally back when I was a Freshman in college. I'm 37 now. Therefore, I only have one credit card with a low limit that I keep for emergencies.

Make sure to contact credit bureaus to lock your profile, so no additional cards may appear. Just because you didn't open them, doesn't mean that they can't already be out there or appear suddenly without notice.

[keko]

Is the recorder voice activated or do you have to press a button for it to record? Check that before heading home.

Have you found out if she is having an affair and if that would make a difference in divorcing at your state?

[Kruss]

The recorder can be set to voice activation, but it seems easier for me to use the buttons to make sure I got a good recording.

I didn't use it at all last night because we did not speak to each other. When I got home from work, she was leaving the house with no babysitter assuming that I was coming home. So, I got the kids without speaking to her and took them to see Madagascar 3, then got them dinner, then got them some swimming supplies. When we got back home, the kids were tired and watched Chicken Little with me in the living room until it was their bedtime. Then, I fell asleep on the couch.

I didn't concern myself with thinking about where she was last night. I needed to be with my kids. She was at home when we got back home, but she did not confront me when I was around the kids last night.

I'm having a consoltation with a lawyer today to find out about the house situation for this state. One consoltation is provided free by my work benefits. I spoke with my Human Resources supervisor yesterday.

That is a good idea about the credit card bureaus. I will place a freeze on my profile.

Thank you for the advice.

[hoosier_dad]

I didn't use it at all last night because we did not speak to each other. When I got home from work, she was leaving the house with no babysitter assuming that I was coming home. So, I got the kids without speaking to her

The main purpose of the recorder is protection against a false PO, not to spot record conversations with your ex. If there is any chance that you will be in contact with your ex your recorder should be running. You need to get in the habit of turning the recorder on when you arrive home from work before entering the house or you are taking a big risk.

[defaultuser]

+1 You may find that after coming home, not speaking to her and going to bed that she left and went to the police station to report that you fought and beat her up...

The recording of you watching TV would disprove that.

[Kruss]

Ok, I will start turning the recorder on with voice activation when I get home and leave it on the entire time I'm home that night. Then, I will upload the file to my computer at the office the next morning.

Thank you.