Accusations of sexual abuse

[Anything4Her]

I feel like when she accuses me of things I have to defend them. Is this true?

Defend to who? To the NJ? To what purpose?
She isn't interested in the truth, only in poking you.

Radio Silence. Read my sig line.

[Vega]

I feel like when she accuses me of things I have to defend them. Is this true?

Defend to who? To the NJ? To what purpose?
She isn't interested in the truth, only in poking you.

Radio Silence. Read my sig line.

Someone once told me if I ignore her communictions it would seem as if I am not concerned for the childrens interest. And would look bad in court.

[TransAm]

^ Dude it's the ONLY way you will remain sane.

I recommend getting a hot tub and watch the stars.

Why shouldn't you listen to me first?

This is good for you knowing that it may be coming. Lock and load as Tom says.

[DrBanzai]

Simple, don't sleep in the same bed with your kids. This is a problem you could have avoided with common sense.

[Vega]

Simple, don't sleep in the same bed with your kids. This is a problem you could have avoided with common sense.

I couldn't disagree more. You can't run around readjusting your life in anticipation of false allegations. That's not common sense. Are you going to stop having sex becasue you are afraid of false rape allegations? I have a one bedroom apartment and we all sleep on a king sized blow up matress.. I do what I can with what I have.

[Fatheroffour]

I agree with you Vega. DrBanzai is just being a short sighted tool.

[SturmDonkey]

Thank you. So I shouldn't respond to her emails? I feel like when she accuses me of things I have to defend them. Is this true?

I wouldn't respond.

I have found that the best policy seems to be not to respond, unless absolutely necessary, or unless there is a direct benefit to you (i.e. making her look crazy)

My stbx is CONSTANTLY angered by the fact that my attorney doesn't respond to every petty little demand and accusation that she makes. I am able to enjoy the fact that she is upset, and that I am not spending money having a lawyer respond to her drivel

[defaultuser]

In regards to not letting the kids sleep in your bed, I choose to not do that with my kids.

I'm a father of two girls. My X is a NJ that I know will resort to false allegations of sexual abuse someday. My X also sleeps with the kids, even though they don't like it.

I'm not saying its wrong to sleep with your kids, and mine often wake me up by pouncing on me in bed in the morning and we hang out there and watch TV for a while sometimes.

However, I don't sleep with my kids because I want to promote independence and the NJ does it in a very co-dependent way where she 'needs' the kids to sleep with her. Also, when that accusation comes around some day, I can say that I don't ever sleep with my kids. It takes this out of the equation. Jerry Sandusky showered with underaged boys. Not saying its wrong, but it opens up the possibility of something happening.

You can't perform sexual abuse if you don't have the access. I know some people who volunteer with victims and the stories they have told me where the abusing parent sleeps with the child while the other parent sleeps somewhere else is sick. The professionals that investigate your case have seen the real thing and as for me, I want to eliminate any similarities between myself and abusers.