Recommendation for Attorney in Eugene, OR or just Oregon

[auto58949195]

Hi

It's fairly late on a Tuesday night. My family is asleep. Two beautiful girls and a wife that takes more of my energy than both. I'm at the point in my marriage that I really don't know what normal is, or really what love is. I do know what frustration is, and what the difference between being ready to lay your life on the line for your children (that sort of love) and feeling unfulfilled while walking in an emotional minefield with another human being (wife).

I have read some of the content here on the forums. The one that has struck me the most is the 'what you wished you knew before you divorced'. It seems to be a warning against divorce unless you or your kids are in physical danger (my take). I don't think that is me, although my wife does have tantrums; you'd expect from a 20 year old (she is 36) that sees their right to happiness as a trump card.

I just don't know if divorce is the right option. I am thick skinned and want to make the best life possible for my two girls. I can take the gut shots. But I also know it is draining me.

Attorneys aren't relationship counselors but, given the way my life is, should I find one (recommendations for my location welcome) and build a just in case scenario? I have come close to the line of throwing the towel in already (several times), and have had the `chat` with my wife about the situation (her response being that I accept this is the best she's willing to do or not). I cannot lose the financial future for my two children and am petrified that my wife will take it (she is not currently employed).

This may read like a fairly tame scenario but, any advice would be welcome.

[BartSimpson]

Have you read "the list"?

Have you started a Journal?

How much are you involved in your children's lives - school, activities, doctor appointments, diurnal stuff?

[Trevor]

Get her taking-you-and-the-comfy-life-for-granted butt back to work. Tighten the reins on your family's finances and advise her the glory days of profligate spending and luxuries (like limitless cell phone plans, internet access, and 2,000 channel television service) are over. Lock down the purse strings, as the only wage earner, and she'll have two options...live with it or start earning to contribute to the family's financial ledger.

[mbxdad]

What Bart and Trevor said.

I'll PM you a recommendation.