This is good for me right?

[stretchkr]

So after spending the night with the new Mr Wonderful, my stbx called me, saying she wants to divorce quick, skip mediation, and settle things this week. So I showed her my list of the things I would have brought to medation, and she agreed to all of it, even had a few changes for the better. So I called an attorney and left a msg asking everything I would need to bring to her to have her draft a divorce decree for a judge to sign. I'm working quick to get it in fromt of a judge before she changes her mind, and believe me I was not unreasonable in what i wanted.

Is this too good to be true?

Once the lawyer drafts the decree and sends it to a judge, can she still change her mind?

Being as I have gotten better advice from here than from any of the lawyers I have talked too, is there anything I am missing here?

Basically she wants to sit down this week and go over it all with me, and I asked the lawyer what exactly we need to bring to her in order to get the decree ready.

I just have a bad feeling for some reason.

[hoosier_dad]

It's common enough that we have a term for it, the Mr. Wonderful effect. But the opportunity it presents has a very limited shelf life so definitely strike the deal quick before the relationship fizzles.

[Fatheroffour]

Mr. Wonderful Effect.

Once it's drafted and she signs off on it it will be difficult to change, but not impossible. Chances are she won't. Get it signed.

[keko]

As others have said, move quick before her relationship cools off with the new beau.

[Here_We_Go]

hurry i had agreement and then she talked with her friend then i lost it. hurry pressure you lawyer to hurry

[stretchkr]

Pretty sure the change in her attitude is that she thinks she is some hot number now (maybe she is, idk) and is embarrassed to say when asked "Where do you live" and either lies, or mentions that she has a husband and two young children at home. All she has really cared about is her image for other people, and that will definetly work to my advantage. She wants to come off as some person who is so put together, and with the first Mr. Wonderful, it was ok that she has all that baggage. he was 21 a virgin, and was finally getting his dick wet, he didn't give a < edited >. But now this new guy is older I guess, has a good job, a house, no baggage, and she probably looks like a trainwreck to him, so hopefully I can get this done before he is faced with that baggage and kicks her to the curb.

Will get 50/50 custody, which is not what I wan't, but I guarantee when she sees how much daycaere is, I will not go more than a day or two without getting my kiddos. Kind of nice to know she needs me, and I could give < edited > all if she is around or not. My kids are definetly affected by this, but I can take care of them I'm really close to their Nanny, who has been more of a mother to them anyway for that last few months.

[browns13]

She can change her mind. My nj did the same thing. Hooked up with the neighbor, wanted things to go quick, but 3 months after it was final, opened it back up because her jobless, loser boyfriend convinced her that she could get more money. I finally had to compromise after almost a year fighting it because it drained my bank account dry.

[Chosen2Dad]

Hate Browns' response, but it's his personal experience..but hurry up! I like your deal! Hoping you don't get the Browns' effect!

[Txbizman]

In Texas its called a rule 11 agreement.... Pretty much bullet proof..... Get it done ASAP

[tom kirkpatrick]

As the saying goes, "The job isn't finished 'til the paperwork is done."

In your case, both parties have reached agreement. Documents are signed and notarized. The tricky part however, is getting the judge to sign off on what you've agreed to. At least that's been my experience.

Translation = If the judge feels that your agreement is (even a little) lopsided, he may not sign.

You've gotta be sure that both sides are properly represented by attorneys so they can argue before the judge, if need be. More often then not, in cases like this, it's up to the attorneys to convince a judge that the agreement is fair and in the best interest of the parties involved.

I trust this makes sense.

Tom