Dads rights

[zs7014]

Need some advice if out there, my wife and I are currently living in same house with two girls 13 & 14, I am going for counseling but my wife refuses she says our marriage is done & instead she is taking my children for social help ( counseling ) without my knowledge or approval. Is this legal in New Jersey

[Fatheroffour]

Yes, its legal.

You should review the links in my signature.

[defaultuser]

Without knowing any details, you should avoid admitting something is wrong with you, or that you are lacking in any way as a parent.

Start documenting your time with the kids and start spending as much time with them as possible. In the end, what do you think they will want? It will probably be up to them.

Also, get involved with the therapy. Insist on meeting with the therapist. I imagine a scenario where your wife is telling the therapist all kinds of bad things about you, setting you up for a very bad outcome when she files for divorce. If the therapist won't be open with you, then you should tell that therapist that your kids are no longer allowed to see them. This may or may not work.

Also, go find a lawyer, because it looks as if you're going to need one.

[Oneforthree]

Many states require consent of both parents. Call the counselor and deny consent. Once they are in this scenario, it's a small leap to subpoena the counselor. Suddenly the counselor reports that your kids are messed up and they need to be with their mother.

[Chosen2Dad]

You have a lot of rights. The girls are old enough that New Jersey will probably allow them to make a decision on preference. As for her not wanting to go to counseling, join the club. I dealt with the same.

If I were you, get a lawyer and move on...you'll be happy you did.

I am in New Jersey as well! Best of luck.

[dadmisseskids]

Is this legal in New Jersey

In New Jersey it is perfectly legal for one parent to take their child(ren) to a mental health provider for treatments, whether they are divorced or not. Where the other parent runs the risk is if there is a court order prohibiting the treatment absent both parents consent. Is there a court order in place?