I did what I had to do

[Txbizman]

If nothing is missing inside the house I would say she is selling her body

Ditto..... I'd bet the 1600.00 that's exactly what she's doing....


Just take the advice that was given to not try and find out who, how many etc. you have your marching orders, stick to them as painful as it is.

And when she asks about the 1600.00, you reply "don't know anything about it but heres your bag of goodies so you can go earn some more"

[Trevor]

"Bag? What bag? You must've left it on the roof of your car when you drove off."

[Texasdad2]

I did not see this mentioned in the other replies, so let me add.....You said she was from another country.....Don't let her be unsupervised with your son for 1 minute...when people begin putting large sums of money in a duffle bag they are not planning to stick around for long.(which would be a good thing, but without your son). Don't let her p-whip you into another impromptu meeting, the first moment your back is turned could be the last time you see your son for a while. Hang in there.

[Gator]

Believe me, I have thought of that. That is exactly I am sending in the paperwork for him to not be issued a passport.

With the PO, and the DV charges and court and everything else, I don't see my NJ having much of a future in los Estados Unidos anymore. Plus, she shoplifted from the Post Exchange. She is now a convicted Federal Felon.

She has screwed her life up. I see no reason for her to stay here anymore...except our son. If she takes him, I will go to Colombia and take him back.

[Gator]

Well, the cavalry has arrived. My mother came to help with my son while I'm at work. She bought a one way ticket. No return date. Amazing woman. I am truly thankful to her and my dad for doing this for me.

So, after all these years, I finally told her exactly my STBX and I were having problems, and I showed her all the evidence...well, not the explicit stuff...and she couldn't believe it. She said that I have every right to see the trip to Puerto Rico as an affair, because it certainly looks like it.

Finally, I feel justified. Not only that, but she helped me put a few other things together too. Like I said, amazing woman.

Aside from that, my NJ has been adhering to the PO. She has the right to call and talk to me about our son's welfare and finances. However, she has been calling quite frequently. It is irritating, but within the limits of the PO.

[keko]

Im happy you're getting support IRL as well.

If you haven't already change the locks just incase she decide's to stop by when your car isn't there. Given her past behavior expect anything from her. Also it might be worthy to hide any valuable item in the house at a storage place.

Also try not to answer her calls, let her leave VMs.

[capslock]

Also try not to answer her calls, let her leave VMs.

Good advice. Let her call all she wants, but let them ALL go to voicemail. Then return the calls once per day.

[Gator]

Excellent advice. However, now that my mother is here, there will be a constant presence in the house.

I am worried about what will come of the hearing on the 6th of June. I hope I get to retain custody of my son after that. Keeping the house would be nice too, since I am already paying for it. However, my son is more important. I could lose everything, keep my son and still be happy.

[capslock]

Excellent advice. However, now that my mother is here, there will be a constant presence in the house.

What do you mean?
Teach your mother the rules. There is nothing wrong with returning calls once daily. You are focusing on parenting your child.

[Gator]

Oh, I was talking about the locking up of the valuables and such. The returning of the calls once a day is a good idea too. I shall implement that, also.