Communication Los

[Vega]

Well of course this has probably been beat to death hear but I have been cut off. No communication via anything with my children. I had to go to there school today two hours off to see them. It looks like I will be making that trip often now.
Any suggestion? Any legal approach or am I just screwed? I even bought my 11 year old a cell phone and she won't let him talk. This is the worst feeling.. omg. I'm already looking for a new job to get away from shift work to revist the custody situation. Shift work sucks.

[Fatheroffour]

To start, what do your orders, if anything, say about communication?

[Vega]

To start, what do your orders, if anything, say about communication?

nothing but amount of nights a week. I tried to get specifics but no one cared.

[Fatheroffour]

You're first step is to document her cutting off communications by writing her a letter, delivered by mail, R3 and email, objecting to it. Give her a time you are going to call the children. Be very reasonable. Call from a cell phone to have a call record. All very polite and businesslike and obviously being used to document as evidence.

[Vega]

You're first step is to document her cutting off communications by writing her a letter, delivered by mail, R3 and email, objecting to it. Give her a time you are going to call the children. Be very reasonable. Call from a cell phone to have a call record. All very polite and businesslike and obviously being used to document as evidence.

OK. I will send an email. I always use my cell phone so that's good. And as for R3 thats registered letters right? OK. Should I include anyone else in the email. Or just keep it between the two of us?

[Fatheroffour]

R3 is return receipt requested. Sending it R3 provided a legal means of proving your case. Do not rely on emails. My suggestion is that before you send the email you sent the letter officially and see if she'll pick it up the first time. Once she gets the hang of the process she may be more or less inclined to ever sign for a piece of mail from you, depending on where on the enforcement bell curve you are on but this first time hopefully she'll sign for it and it might make a dent in her behavior.

It's worth a try.

You continue to document her refusal to facilitate reasonable communication between you and the children and at some point in the future you will have to take her to court but for right now, start the letters and documentation process.

[Vega]

R3 is return receipt requested. Sending it R3 provided a legal means of proving your case. Do not rely on emails. My suggestion is that before you send the email you sent the letter officially and see if she'll pick it up the first time. Once she gets the hang of the process she may be more or less inclined to ever sign for a piece of mail from you, depending on where on the enforcement bell curve you are on but this first time hopefully she'll sign for it and it might make a dent in her behavior.

It's worth a try.

You continue to document her refusal to facilitate reasonable communication between you and the children and at some point in the future you will have to take her to court but for right now, start the letters and documentation process.

OK.. great. Thank you very much.

[Vega]

Oh one more question. After I send the letters and document this over the next month or so.. when she moves to MD in June to live with her sister (Which will mean 3 adults and 5 kids in the same townhouse) I will want to petition the court for scheduled phone communications as well as specific times. As of right now the final order doesn't even give specific days of the week for drop off (which I don't understand at all ... I've expressed my desire over and over for this). Well my question is should I hire an attorney in VA or back in WV where the divorce took place.

[Fatheroffour]

The state in which the divorce took place will have jurisdiction until she/kids meet the residency requirements. 6 months or so?


I've been meaning to ask. Are you related to the Whites of WV?

If so, I'm a big fan.

[Vega]

The state in which the divorce took place will have jurisdiction until she/kids meet the residency requirements. 6 months or so?

I've been meaning to ask. Are you related to the Whites of WV?

If so, I'm a big fan.

Well I was thinking of going back to court in July if this continues. That would give a whole two months to compile a journal. Plus I would like an additional day with the children at least during the summer. If I can get a 5 day a week job maybe more.

Nope... no relation to the Whites lol