Final Hearing

[Vega]

Ok.. so my now X and I filed bankrupcy ch7 on the 26th the same day the court date was scheduled for the final hearing. Im told we are going be rescheduled. So then I get a call and get told the judge is wondering where I am. So I am then given a number to call. Folks I just had my final divorce hearing via telephone conference call in my living room. The funniest part was when the judge asked me to raise my right hand. lol

Results:

Children: 2 days a week school year 3 a week days summer.

Allimony: 750 a month for two years under contract

CS: 1300 month

Tax Returns: I claim on child each year she gets two

Vehicles: I kept the mustang and trailblazer she wanted the camry and got it.. but the judge kept telling her "m'am both myself and your attny are telling you it is a bad idea.. the condition you get this back in is how you keep it". She still wanted only because she knew that I did. lol wow. That was funny.

TSP: I have 9,000 available and a 3500 loan. I pay the loan she gets the $9000 left in tsp. This is to offset the difference in the vehicles (they valued the mustang at 18,000 and its not worth any more the 13,000 tops). They also took my $7000 dollars worth of annual leave into consideration (this was a shock.. I don't get it) The judge told me I could appeal...didn't want to hear it.

FERS retirement: Formula TBD

Homes: Go back to bank in bankruptcy

Other items: Keep what's in each others possession

She owes me 1200 dollars back for something...at this point it was having trouble hearing in the conference call.

The tax return split in half is 2200 in an earlier hearing. The judge never ordered on it in the final...so Im not paying it.

No other attorney fees to her that I could hear.

[anonymous guest]

Are you happy with the results?
What about weekend parenting time? Or holidays/vacations?

Not sure how you could miss the final trial. Did you have a lawyer?

[Vega]

Are you happy with the results?
What about weekend parenting time? Or holidays/vacations?

Not sure how you could miss the final trial. Did you have a lawyer?

The paralegal said it was rescheduled... after I filed the bankrupcy that day.

It was not my fault.. i got bumb info.

None the less.. for the most part I think it could have been worse.

The holdidays alternate. I work shift work so everyweekend has a chunk taken out of it for me. So I didn't get any special clauses. She got the first weekend out of the month though. My attorney didn't care about what I wanted.. I felt like my X hired two attorneys against me. They were just pushing to close the case at this point. I felt like my attorney knew what was going to happen and didn't want to waste her time. So not only did I have to settle for the parenting time do to having to move but I got stuck with having to readjust to her needs again. Plus she got my TSP and car of choice. It could have been worse.. the alimony isn't that bad... ect.. but I know one thing.. NO MO MARRIAGES for me. She called my mother the next day and tried to tell her a bunch of BS about me. I have taken the high road the whole time.. it's been sickening but doing it for the kids.

[Vega]

How do you react if for whatever reasons your X continues to call you family and leave voicemail. She's been doing this. Also I know she is going to screw me on my days with the children.. how do you document this all? Is a journal now the way of life!! SOOOO complicated.

[Bubba Seal]

Vega if you feel good about it then thats all that matters.

[defaultuser]

You should send her an R3 letter asking her to stop contacting your mother. If she continues, you will seek legal action.

Also, your mother may want to say, 'stop calling me' and file a complaint for harassment if she continues.

Regarding getting screwed out of your time, you document it carefully and sue her for contempt. Don't ever give up your time if she tries to play games with you. After she pulls that crap about 3 times, file a motion for contempt along with attorney fees. If she's serious about violating the court order, you may work yourself into primary custody.

[TransAm]

I'm fed. too. What in the world did they say about your annual leave?

Are you saying they get the dollar amount of what your vacation time is worth?

[Vega]

I'm fed. too. What in the world did they say about your annual leave?

Are you saying they get the dollar amount of what your vacation time is worth?

They get half of your vaca leave. I wish i would have known. I would have burn it all out.

[Vega]

You should send her an R3 letter asking her to stop contacting your mother. If she continues, you will seek legal action.

Also, your mother may want to say, 'stop calling me' and file a complaint for harassment if she continues.

Regarding getting screwed out of your time, you document it carefully and sue her for contempt. Don't ever give up your time if she tries to play games with you. After she pulls that < edited > about 3 times, file a motion for contempt along with attorney fees. If she's serious about violating the court order, you may work yourself into primary custody.

Well... I don't know where my x thinks she is going with this... an R3 letter is what again?

She also contacted my brother several times a few weeks ago and left multiple messages.

[Fatheroffour]

Its a free country and she is free to contact and talk with whomever she wishes. The onus is on the other party to stop the contact if that is what they want. You will get nowhere trying to C yourself between A and B.