NJ has reached a new low...

[BubbaGumpShrimp]

My NJ left a voicemail yesterday evening telling me about how she started going to a support group for widows (she referenced the movie 'Fight Club'). Anyone that's seen the movie knows that it's about two people that are frauds and attend the meetings to: A. Feel better about themselves, and B. Feel important...because if people feel bad for you...they really listen.

In her mind..."your refusal to talk to me essentially makes you dead to me." Well...I wish that were the case. Then maybe she'd stop calling, texting, emailing, etc. Yeah...I was completely ******* floored by that last voicemail.

I don't think she processes quite how much ammunition she's given me, just by flapping her gums. I almost feel bad for her. I definitely feel bad for her kids (they're the only reason I didn't bail six months ago). If she's attending support groups for non-existent problems and harassing me in her free time, I can't imagine that she's being much of a parent (which is a total shocker).

[chereeda]

That's not ammunition, it's an attempt to hoover you. She doesn't believe you yet...Got those eviction proceedings started?

donna

[BubbaGumpShrimp]

That's not ammunition, it's an attempt to hoover you. She doesn't believe you yet...Got those eviction proceedings started?

donna

She's trying to hoover me...yes. However, like every other voicemail she's left, it serves as a great reference to her current frame of mind. When I left, she tried to claim that I was crazy and had issues because I left her. This coming from someone who is taking advantage of the safety that a support group like that is supposed to provide those who have a legitimate loss.

I emailed the attorney on Monday to set the framework for what I want (stepping down from the initial generous PSA). Essentially...the gravy train is about to come to a screeching stop. I called the lawyer again today (no luck). Yeah...I'm pushing for the lawyer to get the ball rolling on that.

[stretchkr]

I love when the stbx decides I kneed to "know" what she is doing to get over me, and make me feel bad. I either ignore it, or be overly nice about it. "WAY TO GO HONEY MUFFINS!!!" Really pisses her off.

[BubbaGumpShrimp]

I love when the stbx decides I kneed to "know" what she is doing to get over me, and make me feel bad. I either ignore it, or be overly nice about it. "WAY TO GO HONEY MUFFINS!!!" Really < edited > her off.

Yeah...that's where I am at the moment. She could tell me that she just got done with a gang bang and I'd say "congratulations." She doesn't process that I just done care anymore.

I don't respond to anything anymore though. She would use legitimate topics (i.e. the house) to lure me in to talk about bu11$h1t.

[Max]

I love when the stbx decides I kneed to "know" what she is doing to get over me, and make me feel bad. I either ignore it, or be overly nice about it. "WAY TO GO HONEY MUFFINS!!!" Really < edited > her off.

Mine tried me this way too. For about 2 weeks she played the email/txt game because I wouldn't answer the phone. Forcing it to one-way communication. I got tired of it finally. Knew which bar she was at one night and took my 'get over it solution' out to the same bar. It was a mutual friend about 7 years younger than me and 12 years younger than my x. Happens to be an ex-stripper. Yeah. X was pleased. Didn't hear from her for about a month. She was ready to explode and didn't don't which way to aim it.