Just guessing but I assume her attorney practices law in front of this judge regularly.
"(judge) told her lawyer that I better have a custody hearing at most by Feb 29th If not he's gonna wanna know why.......until then everything will remain the same...."
"Sorry your Honor. Been pretty busy and couldn't schedule any open time that corresponded with the courts calendar. I believe we've found a favorable time in just a couple of weeks."
There are two strategies. One, speed it through court before you have time to prepare. I don't think that's the one her attorney has chosen.
Two, Stall. Freeze you out. Build status quo doing whatever she wants with you on the outside looking in. The longer they stall on their terms, the better for them and the worse for you.
If they are going to stall you need to use your time wisely. Focus on kid, kids issues, learning the law and building your case. Getting sidetracked with police investigations, criminal charges, her, her BF, flame wars or the way you are being treated do you no good in the long run.
There is a lot of waiting built into the system. Use it wisely. If it doesn't involve your child, evidence concerning your child, evidence concerning your fatherly duties or making money to pay for an attorney you are sidetracked yet again and the results of your case will show it.